“You're in a relationship with your kids, but it is not the same relationship. If your north star is a mutually satisfying relationship with your adult children someday, don't abdicate your role along the way. Standing your ground will create tension. Choose to live with it. Learn to manage it. Don't attempt to eliminate it. Just as tension is required to build physical strength, the unavoidable tension between parents and their children builds relational strength. Resolving it now will cost you later.” - Andy Stanley