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Awaken the Giant Within: How to Take Immediate Control of Your Mental, Emotional, Physical and Financial Destiny!
Wake up and take control of your life! From the bestselling author of Inner Strength , Unlimited Power , and MONEY Master the Game, Anthony Robbins, the nation's leader in the science of peak performance, shows you his most effective strategies and techniques for mastering your emotions, your body, your relationships, your finances, and your life.
The acknowledged expert in the psychology of change, Anthony Robbins provides a step-by-step program teaching the fundamental lessons of self-mastery that will enable you to discover your true purpose, take control of your life, and harness the forces that shape your destiny.
The acknowledged expert in the psychology of change, Anthony Robbins provides a step-by-step program teaching the fundamental lessons of self-mastery that will enable you to discover your true purpose, take control of your life, and harness the forces that shape your destiny.
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First published January 1, 1992
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August 19, 2020
The first time I read this book I just felt very happy for a few weeks. The power of the techniques in this book is lifechanging. Implementation of all of them can be difficult - many of them are not easy, and just reading a book does not give enough push to do sth. This is one of the most practical books I’ve ever read, and even though Tony Robbins is not 100% correct (no one is), most of his strategies do work.
My top 3 takeaways are:
* You can change your beliefs to ones that empower you and remove ones that dis-empower you.
* Focus only on things that you can control (maybe not a new thing, however, I love his perspective on this one).
* Follow your ends values, not your means values.
You can read the full summary of this book together with the main action points in the BooksInAction app as well as here: https://www.mentorist.app/books/awake...
My top 3 takeaways are:
* You can change your beliefs to ones that empower you and remove ones that dis-empower you.
* Focus only on things that you can control (maybe not a new thing, however, I love his perspective on this one).
* Follow your ends values, not your means values.
You can read the full summary of this book together with the main action points in the BooksInAction app as well as here: https://www.mentorist.app/books/awake...
December 13, 2010
توني روبنز ، ليس ممن يبيعون الوهم ، بل هو الشخص الذي يأخذ يتفكيرك خطوة خطوة ، يخطئ ويصيب ، ويتلعثم بصوت مرتفع بكل شفافية ، هذا الكتاب ككل كتب توني روبنز ومؤلفاته ، تحاول الإجابة عن السؤال ( لماذا ) أكثر من السؤال ( كيف )
يركز هذا الكتاب على مبدأ اللذة والألم ، وكيف أن قيم اللذة والألم هي المحرك الحاسم لكي يفعل الإنسان ما يريد فعله ، ويتحدث عن فكرة مفادها أن للإنسان حرية و قدرة على أن يشعر بما يشاء وقت ما يشاء بحسب القيم الموجودة داخله
يستطرد الكتاب في كل اتجاه
الكتاب لا يمل ، وهو من الكتب ذات القيمة المرتفعة
كاتب هذا التعليق معجب بتوني روبنز ، ومتابع جيد لمحاضراته ، هذا الكتاب تمت قراءته بالعربية
يركز هذا الكتاب على مبدأ اللذة والألم ، وكيف أن قيم اللذة والألم هي المحرك الحاسم لكي يفعل الإنسان ما يريد فعله ، ويتحدث عن فكرة مفادها أن للإنسان حرية و قدرة على أن يشعر بما يشاء وقت ما يشاء بحسب القيم الموجودة داخله
يستطرد الكتاب في كل اتجاه
الكتاب لا يمل ، وهو من الكتب ذات القيمة المرتفعة
كاتب هذا التعليق معجب بتوني روبنز ، ومتابع جيد لمحاضراته ، هذا الكتاب تمت قراءته بالعربية
March 20, 2021
This book should be required reading for everyone. Amazing. How am I just learning about Anthony Robbins? I have always been the most motivated, determined person I know in every area of my life, but lately I had begun to lose that. Robbins' book helped take me out of this dark part of my life and motivated me again to become something great during this one shot at life.
This is a long book, and should not be rushed through. You just need to read a little each day- I would read a chapter or two- and then think about what you have read in the next 24 hours. You should also do all the exercises it tells you to do, no matter how cheesy they may seem. They will make sense and help get you out of your rut of unhealthy thinking and living. An unexamined life is not worth living...
This is a long book, and should not be rushed through. You just need to read a little each day- I would read a chapter or two- and then think about what you have read in the next 24 hours. You should also do all the exercises it tells you to do, no matter how cheesy they may seem. They will make sense and help get you out of your rut of unhealthy thinking and living. An unexamined life is not worth living...
July 25, 2014
[أنتوني روبنز: أيقظ قواك الخفية، ورقي، الطبعة الثامنة 2004، تنمية ذاتية، 559 صفحة]
نعم، هذا الكتاب ليس من نوعية الكتب التي تُقرأ مرة واحدة ثم تُهمل وتُوضع بعيداً، إنه بالفعل موسوعة متكاملة عن النمو والتحسين المستمر في كل مناحي الحياة. قرأت هذا الكتاب حوالي أربع مرات ومراجعتي هذه تأتي بعد قرائتي له للمرة الخامسة ، وفي كل مرة اكتشف في محتواه شيء جديدا مثيراً غاب عني ولم انتبه له!
توني روبنز هو خبير متمرس في مجال التدريب المحترف والتطوير الذاتي أو ما يعرف بعلم النجاح والتفوق البشري وهو أيظاً من رواد علم البرمجة اللغوية العصبية وله اسهامات كبيرة فيه. له عدة كتب في هذا المجال وقد اخترت أن ابدأ رحتلي معه بهذا الكتاب. في كتابه هذا لن تجد اسلوباً مملاً يخبرك بما يتجوب عليك أن تفعل لكي تصبح "سعيدا" و"ناجحاً"، كعادة الكثير من كتب التنمية الذاتية الأخرى (والتي كانت لدي قراءات سريعة لها). إذاً ما الجديد والمثير الذي يقدمه توني روبنز هنا؟ هل ستقرأ أفكاراً تقليدية عن النجاح والتفوق؟ كلا. هذا باختصار ليس كأي كتاب آخر قرأته في مجال التنمية الذاتية حيث إن أكثر ما يركز عليه توني روبنزهو حصولك على نتائج "فورية" و دائمة/طويلة الأجل، هذه النتائج التي تتحرق للحصول عليها قد تخص مجال علاقاتك الشحصية أو مستواك المالي أو ربما تحسين حالتك البدنية أو أي تحسين آخر في أي مجال تريده بصفة دائمة، أليس هذا ما نريده في نهاية المطاف؟ وكل ذلك بوسائل واستراتيجيات لم تتخيلها ولم تتصور مدى بساطتها ومفعولها القوي في ذات الوقت! في كل فصل من فصول الكتاب تشعر وكأن الكاتب يضع يده على الجرح في مواضع كثيرة، فهو مثلاً يخبرنا بأننا جميعاً جربنا التغير للحظات ثم ما لبثنا أن عدنا إلى حالتنا السابقة، معظمنا جرب الشعور بالسعادة، الثقة، حب الآخرين أو ربما جربنا الإقلاع عن عادة سيئة كالتدخين مثلاً أو الافراط في الأكل مثلا آخر، ثُم و بشكل محزن وبعد فترة وجيزة عدنا لِما كنا عليه. توني روبنز يخبرك لماذا يحدث هذا بشكل مذهل! ستندهش عنما تعلم لماذا أنت وأنا -وأي شخص آخر- نفعل ما نفعل وماهي القوة التي تحرك كل افعالنا ومشاعرنا وبالتالي مصيرنا- ما الذي يشكل سلوكنا نحن البشر؟ توني روبنز يخبرك ويشرح لك بتفصيلٍ دقيق بأن كل أفعالنا إنما هي ناتجة عن رغبة منا في الحصول على المتعة أو لتجنب الألم.
الكتاب دسم فعلاً ومليء بالأفكار والتجارب والنتائج والتي هي حصيلة خبرات الكاتب في التعامل مع مختلف أنواع الناس في العالم لسنين طويلة، وهو بذلك لا بُد أن يُقرأ بعناية مع ورقة وقلم فهو مليء بالتمارين وحتماً ستسجل العديد من الملاحظات والأفكار والتي سترِد إليك منذ الفصل الأول. في الحقيقة، إنْ لم تؤدي التمارين التي يحتويها الكتاب فلن تحصل على أي فائدة حقيقة من الكتاب، وحينها ستصدر أحاكماً خاطئة عن محتوى الكتاب ومؤلفه- وهذا وما حصل لي جزئياً عند قرائتي له للمرة الأولى.
لن أقول أني وبعد قرائتي للكتاب وفهمي لأفكاره الأساسية (بما يناسب مستواي ونضجي الفكري، على الأقل) تمكنتُ من تحقيق التغييرت الجذرية التي وعد الكاتب بالحصول عليها، لم اشتري سيارتي البي ام دبليو التي أحلم بها ولم أحقق ثراءاً هائلاَ (لم تكن هذه "أهدافاً" لي على أية حال)، بل خرجتُ بدرس رائع ومنفعة عظيمة وهي أن أطبق مبدأ التحسن المستمر، أيْ أن التزم التزاماً صادقاً في كل يوم من أيام حياتي بإحداث تغييرات منتظمة وصغيرة في مناحي حياتي. قبل قرائتي للكتاب لم اضع سيجارة في فمي ولم اتناول الكحول قط ولم أدمن على أي مادة من هذا القبيل كما لم أكن أعاني من البدانة المفرطة، بمعنى أنني كنت أُصنّف نفسي بمستوى متوسط، وهذا اشعرني بالارتياح فلم أفكر بأنني يمكن أن انتقل بحياتي ووضعيتي الحالية إلى مستوى ممتاز ومستقل مذهل. وبعد قرائتي للكتاب ازددت قناعة ويقيناً بأنني لن أفعل ذلك البتة، بإذن الله، وأنّ علي الانتقال إلى المستوى التالي. سواء كنت شخصاً "عادياً" مثلي أنا، أو شخصاً يعاني من الإدمان أو البدانة أو تريد أن تكون "شخصاً ذا قيمية" أو ربما تريد السيطرة على مشاعرك وأفكارك، فهذا الكتاب لك. واحدة من الأفكار الرائعة التي يطرحها الكتاب هي أنّ النجاح لا يُقاس بمقدار ما تحصل عليه من مال أو مادة، بل هو ذلك الشعور الراسخ الذي يكمن بداخلك والذي يتمثل بالقناعة والشعور بالرضا و الحماس لمساعدة الآخرين وتغيير حياتهم للأفضل، ذلك هو حقاً النجاح.
أخيراً، هل هناك نقاط سلبية في ما طرحه الكاتب؟ هناك ثلاث أمور يجب أن تعلمها قبل وحين وبعد قراءتك للكتاب: (1) قد يبدو لك المحتوى مكرراً بصورة كبيرة وأنك سمعت هذا الكلام في مصادر أخرى وهذا ماشعرتُ به أنا أيضاً. توني روبنز يسمي نفسه مدرباً، وهو يخبرك بأن المدرب قد لا يخبرك بأشياء جديدة لا تعرفها، بل هو غالباً يخبرك بأشياء تعرفها ويحثك على تطبيقها ويزودك باستراتيجات وآليات لضمان الحصول على نتائج نوعية ومستمرة. شعرت بالفعل وأنا اقرأ المحتوى بأنني سمعت هذا الكلام من مصادر أخرى، ولكن ثق بأنك لن تقرأ كلاما روتينيا مملاً، توني روبنز لديه اسلوبه المميز والجذاب وستشعر بأن تلتهم الكتاب التهاماً. (2) انتبه: ليس كل ما في هذا الكتاب يعتبر صالحاً لك! بل إن الكاتب يخبرك في مطلع الكتاب بأنه ليس عليك أن تصدق كل ما ورد فيه، انتقِ الجزء الذي تراه مناسباً وطبقه وهذا كفيل بالحصول على النتائج التي تريدها. شخصياً لم أجد فيه ما يخالف عقيدتي كمسلم. قد نختلف مع الكاتب في مواضع معينة، ولكنها حتماً لخسارة كبرى أن لا نخرج من هذا الكتاب سوى بذم الكاتب والنقاش في شخصه، أو نسف المحتوى بالكامل ووصفه بأنه وهم أو هراء! هذه بحق خسارة فادحة.. (3) أرى بأن توني روبنز قد بالغ كثيرا في اشهار نفسه بصورة مبالغ فيها عندما عرض اقتباسته في كتابه هو بجانب اقتباسات لمشاهير أمثال المهاتما غاندي ومارتن لوثر كنج وهنري فورد وغيرهم، وهذا للأسف جعلني اشعر بأن الكاتب مصاب بالغرور والفخر الزائدين عندما يعرض نفسه بهذه الطريقة. ما غطّى على هذه النقطة السلبية، هو أنه يخبرك في مواضع عدة من الكتاب بأنه يفشل ويتعثر وأنه عانى من أوقات حرجة ولحظات ألم في حياته.
مأخذي الأكبر على الكتاب على الكتاب هو أن محتواه مكرر بصورة واضحة من محتوى "قدرات غير محدودة" الذي سبقه لنفس الكاتب- العديد من النقاط والقصص خاصةً معادٌ ذكرها باسلوب إعادة الصياغة والتحديث، تشعر وكأن الكاتب وضع نسخة من "قدرات غير محدودة" بجواره حين ألف "أيقظ قواك الخفية" أو على الأقل استحضر الكثير من أفكار الأول ليعيد عرضها في الثاني وما يزيد هذا وضوحاً هو ذكر أجزاء من محتوى "قدرات غير محدودة" والإشارة إليها وإلى عناوين فصولها في مواضع عديدة من "أيقظ قواك الخفية" -وهذا ما سأوضحة أكثر عند كتابة مراجعتي للأول، بإذن الله-. مع ذلك، هناك اختلاف جوهري في محتوى الكتابين، و أرى بأن قراءة أحدهما لا تغنى عن قراءة الأخر ولو بصورة سريعة.
الترجمة كانت موفقة، ولكن أسلوب ترجمة الاقتباسات الواردة في الكتاب لم يكن سليماً تماماً، تشعر وكأن هذه الاقتباسات قد جُرّدت من معناها، وهذا ما أزعجني قليلاً. أيضاً، عندما أطّلعتُ على النسخة الإنجليزية من الكتاب وجدتُ أن المُترجِمة حذفت وأضافت بعض العبارات لأسباب يبدو بجلاء أنها عقائدية.
شخصياً، فتح لي هذا الكتاب مدخلاً واسعاً ورائعاً للقراءة أكثر في مجال البرمجة اللغوية العصبية والتنمية الذاتية، وأرى أنه نقطة انطلاق مثالية لمن يرغب في الدخول في هذين المجالين والتعمق فيهما.
ختاماً، أنصح كل من قرأ هذه المراجعة باقتناء الكتاب وقراءته بعناية وتأني. اقرأ هذا الكتاب إذا كانت لديك رغبة حقيقية لإحداث تغييرات نوعية ودائمة في حياتك عاطفياً، وبدنياً، ومالياً و اجتماعياً، وكنتَ مستعداً لبذل أقصى ما لديك في سبيل ذلك. ثق بي، اقرأه ولن تندم.
نعم، هذا الكتاب ليس من نوعية الكتب التي تُقرأ مرة واحدة ثم تُهمل وتُوضع بعيداً، إنه بالفعل موسوعة متكاملة عن النمو والتحسين المستمر في كل مناحي الحياة. قرأت هذا الكتاب حوالي أربع مرات ومراجعتي هذه تأتي بعد قرائتي له للمرة الخامسة ، وفي كل مرة اكتشف في محتواه شيء جديدا مثيراً غاب عني ولم انتبه له!
توني روبنز هو خبير متمرس في مجال التدريب المحترف والتطوير الذاتي أو ما يعرف بعلم النجاح والتفوق البشري وهو أيظاً من رواد علم البرمجة اللغوية العصبية وله اسهامات كبيرة فيه. له عدة كتب في هذا المجال وقد اخترت أن ابدأ رحتلي معه بهذا الكتاب. في كتابه هذا لن تجد اسلوباً مملاً يخبرك بما يتجوب عليك أن تفعل لكي تصبح "سعيدا" و"ناجحاً"، كعادة الكثير من كتب التنمية الذاتية الأخرى (والتي كانت لدي قراءات سريعة لها). إذاً ما الجديد والمثير الذي يقدمه توني روبنز هنا؟ هل ستقرأ أفكاراً تقليدية عن النجاح والتفوق؟ كلا. هذا باختصار ليس كأي كتاب آخر قرأته في مجال التنمية الذاتية حيث إن أكثر ما يركز عليه توني روبنزهو حصولك على نتائج "فورية" و دائمة/طويلة الأجل، هذه النتائج التي تتحرق للحصول عليها قد تخص مجال علاقاتك الشحصية أو مستواك المالي أو ربما تحسين حالتك البدنية أو أي تحسين آخر في أي مجال تريده بصفة دائمة، أليس هذا ما نريده في نهاية المطاف؟ وكل ذلك بوسائل واستراتيجيات لم تتخيلها ولم تتصور مدى بساطتها ومفعولها القوي في ذات الوقت! في كل فصل من فصول الكتاب تشعر وكأن الكاتب يضع يده على الجرح في مواضع كثيرة، فهو مثلاً يخبرنا بأننا جميعاً جربنا التغير للحظات ثم ما لبثنا أن عدنا إلى حالتنا السابقة، معظمنا جرب الشعور بالسعادة، الثقة، حب الآخرين أو ربما جربنا الإقلاع عن عادة سيئة كالتدخين مثلاً أو الافراط في الأكل مثلا آخر، ثُم و بشكل محزن وبعد فترة وجيزة عدنا لِما كنا عليه. توني روبنز يخبرك لماذا يحدث هذا بشكل مذهل! ستندهش عنما تعلم لماذا أنت وأنا -وأي شخص آخر- نفعل ما نفعل وماهي القوة التي تحرك كل افعالنا ومشاعرنا وبالتالي مصيرنا- ما الذي يشكل سلوكنا نحن البشر؟ توني روبنز يخبرك ويشرح لك بتفصيلٍ دقيق بأن كل أفعالنا إنما هي ناتجة عن رغبة منا في الحصول على المتعة أو لتجنب الألم.
الكتاب دسم فعلاً ومليء بالأفكار والتجارب والنتائج والتي هي حصيلة خبرات الكاتب في التعامل مع مختلف أنواع الناس في العالم لسنين طويلة، وهو بذلك لا بُد أن يُقرأ بعناية مع ورقة وقلم فهو مليء بالتمارين وحتماً ستسجل العديد من الملاحظات والأفكار والتي سترِد إليك منذ الفصل الأول. في الحقيقة، إنْ لم تؤدي التمارين التي يحتويها الكتاب فلن تحصل على أي فائدة حقيقة من الكتاب، وحينها ستصدر أحاكماً خاطئة عن محتوى الكتاب ومؤلفه- وهذا وما حصل لي جزئياً عند قرائتي له للمرة الأولى.
لن أقول أني وبعد قرائتي للكتاب وفهمي لأفكاره الأساسية (بما يناسب مستواي ونضجي الفكري، على الأقل) تمكنتُ من تحقيق التغييرت الجذرية التي وعد الكاتب بالحصول عليها، لم اشتري سيارتي البي ام دبليو التي أحلم بها ولم أحقق ثراءاً هائلاَ (لم تكن هذه "أهدافاً" لي على أية حال)، بل خرجتُ بدرس رائع ومنفعة عظيمة وهي أن أطبق مبدأ التحسن المستمر، أيْ أن التزم التزاماً صادقاً في كل يوم من أيام حياتي بإحداث تغييرات منتظمة وصغيرة في مناحي حياتي. قبل قرائتي للكتاب لم اضع سيجارة في فمي ولم اتناول الكحول قط ولم أدمن على أي مادة من هذا القبيل كما لم أكن أعاني من البدانة المفرطة، بمعنى أنني كنت أُصنّف نفسي بمستوى متوسط، وهذا اشعرني بالارتياح فلم أفكر بأنني يمكن أن انتقل بحياتي ووضعيتي الحالية إلى مستوى ممتاز ومستقل مذهل. وبعد قرائتي للكتاب ازددت قناعة ويقيناً بأنني لن أفعل ذلك البتة، بإذن الله، وأنّ علي الانتقال إلى المستوى التالي. سواء كنت شخصاً "عادياً" مثلي أنا، أو شخصاً يعاني من الإدمان أو البدانة أو تريد أن تكون "شخصاً ذا قيمية" أو ربما تريد السيطرة على مشاعرك وأفكارك، فهذا الكتاب لك. واحدة من الأفكار الرائعة التي يطرحها الكتاب هي أنّ النجاح لا يُقاس بمقدار ما تحصل عليه من مال أو مادة، بل هو ذلك الشعور الراسخ الذي يكمن بداخلك والذي يتمثل بالقناعة والشعور بالرضا و الحماس لمساعدة الآخرين وتغيير حياتهم للأفضل، ذلك هو حقاً النجاح.
أخيراً، هل هناك نقاط سلبية في ما طرحه الكاتب؟ هناك ثلاث أمور يجب أن تعلمها قبل وحين وبعد قراءتك للكتاب: (1) قد يبدو لك المحتوى مكرراً بصورة كبيرة وأنك سمعت هذا الكلام في مصادر أخرى وهذا ماشعرتُ به أنا أيضاً. توني روبنز يسمي نفسه مدرباً، وهو يخبرك بأن المدرب قد لا يخبرك بأشياء جديدة لا تعرفها، بل هو غالباً يخبرك بأشياء تعرفها ويحثك على تطبيقها ويزودك باستراتيجات وآليات لضمان الحصول على نتائج نوعية ومستمرة. شعرت بالفعل وأنا اقرأ المحتوى بأنني سمعت هذا الكلام من مصادر أخرى، ولكن ثق بأنك لن تقرأ كلاما روتينيا مملاً، توني روبنز لديه اسلوبه المميز والجذاب وستشعر بأن تلتهم الكتاب التهاماً. (2) انتبه: ليس كل ما في هذا الكتاب يعتبر صالحاً لك! بل إن الكاتب يخبرك في مطلع الكتاب بأنه ليس عليك أن تصدق كل ما ورد فيه، انتقِ الجزء الذي تراه مناسباً وطبقه وهذا كفيل بالحصول على النتائج التي تريدها. شخصياً لم أجد فيه ما يخالف عقيدتي كمسلم. قد نختلف مع الكاتب في مواضع معينة، ولكنها حتماً لخسارة كبرى أن لا نخرج من هذا الكتاب سوى بذم الكاتب والنقاش في شخصه، أو نسف المحتوى بالكامل ووصفه بأنه وهم أو هراء! هذه بحق خسارة فادحة.. (3) أرى بأن توني روبنز قد بالغ كثيرا في اشهار نفسه بصورة مبالغ فيها عندما عرض اقتباسته في كتابه هو بجانب اقتباسات لمشاهير أمثال المهاتما غاندي ومارتن لوثر كنج وهنري فورد وغيرهم، وهذا للأسف جعلني اشعر بأن الكاتب مصاب بالغرور والفخر الزائدين عندما يعرض نفسه بهذه الطريقة. ما غطّى على هذه النقطة السلبية، هو أنه يخبرك في مواضع عدة من الكتاب بأنه يفشل ويتعثر وأنه عانى من أوقات حرجة ولحظات ألم في حياته.
مأخذي الأكبر على الكتاب على الكتاب هو أن محتواه مكرر بصورة واضحة من محتوى "قدرات غير محدودة" الذي سبقه لنفس الكاتب- العديد من النقاط والقصص خاصةً معادٌ ذكرها باسلوب إعادة الصياغة والتحديث، تشعر وكأن الكاتب وضع نسخة من "قدرات غير محدودة" بجواره حين ألف "أيقظ قواك الخفية" أو على الأقل استحضر الكثير من أفكار الأول ليعيد عرضها في الثاني وما يزيد هذا وضوحاً هو ذكر أجزاء من محتوى "قدرات غير محدودة" والإشارة إليها وإلى عناوين فصولها في مواضع عديدة من "أيقظ قواك الخفية" -وهذا ما سأوضحة أكثر عند كتابة مراجعتي للأول، بإذن الله-. مع ذلك، هناك اختلاف جوهري في محتوى الكتابين، و أرى بأن قراءة أحدهما لا تغنى عن قراءة الأخر ولو بصورة سريعة.
الترجمة كانت موفقة، ولكن أسلوب ترجمة الاقتباسات الواردة في الكتاب لم يكن سليماً تماماً، تشعر وكأن هذه الاقتباسات قد جُرّدت من معناها، وهذا ما أزعجني قليلاً. أيضاً، عندما أطّلعتُ على النسخة الإنجليزية من الكتاب وجدتُ أن المُترجِمة حذفت وأضافت بعض العبارات لأسباب يبدو بجلاء أنها عقائدية.
شخصياً، فتح لي هذا الكتاب مدخلاً واسعاً ورائعاً للقراءة أكثر في مجال البرمجة اللغوية العصبية والتنمية الذاتية، وأرى أنه نقطة انطلاق مثالية لمن يرغب في الدخول في هذين المجالين والتعمق فيهما.
ختاماً، أنصح كل من قرأ هذه المراجعة باقتناء الكتاب وقراءته بعناية وتأني. اقرأ هذا الكتاب إذا كانت لديك رغبة حقيقية لإحداث تغييرات نوعية ودائمة في حياتك عاطفياً، وبدنياً، ومالياً و اجتماعياً، وكنتَ مستعداً لبذل أقصى ما لديك في سبيل ذلك. ثق بي، اقرأه ولن تندم.
January 6, 2017
The pop psychology advice in this book about goal setting, decision making, bias to action, seeking help from others etc. will be useful to some and is not harmful.
What is harmful is the naive belief that if you want success enough, you can achieve it. For most people life is a quiet and desperate struggle for survival interspersed with some happy moments.
To be successful, you have to be lucky in addition to working hard, being smart, creative etc. and only a small percentage of us will ever get to be lucky.
What is harmful is the naive belief that if you want success enough, you can achieve it. For most people life is a quiet and desperate struggle for survival interspersed with some happy moments.
To be successful, you have to be lucky in addition to working hard, being smart, creative etc. and only a small percentage of us will ever get to be lucky.
November 14, 2020
Knowing is not enough! You must take action.
Read for research on the topic of cognitive distortions and thinking patterns.
If you will read only one self-help book in life, I would recommend this one. Tony successfully mixes approaches of CBT, NLP and even a bit of existential psychotherapy to execute ideas and solutions for a person's life that are easy to understand and apply in real situations. He doesn't serve the usual positive thinking/false hope self-help control-bias but puts a shift of the perspective and thoughts that will have more constructive outcomes.
More detailed review in the future.
Read for research on the topic of cognitive distortions and thinking patterns.
If you will read only one self-help book in life, I would recommend this one. Tony successfully mixes approaches of CBT, NLP and even a bit of existential psychotherapy to execute ideas and solutions for a person's life that are easy to understand and apply in real situations. He doesn't serve the usual positive thinking/false hope self-help control-bias but puts a shift of the perspective and thoughts that will have more constructive outcomes.
More detailed review in the future.
January 9, 2013
He opens up with a story about flying his jet helicopter. This book focuses mostly on "things". It is nothing new, certainly nothing special, and it is INTOLERABLY materialistic. If that's your thing, then knock yourself out. Please be skydiving when you do.
August 31, 2014
بحثت عنه بعد ما قال أحمد الشقيرى أن هذا الكتاب أثر فيه وأفاده كثيراً
وأنا محتاجة جداً لكتاب تنمية بشرية يكون غير تقليدى :)
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تحديث :
استغرق منى هذا الكتاب قرابة 8 شهور
تجربتى مع الكتاب ده :
كنت حاسة بالفشل دراسياً فى الكلية فقررت أبدأ السنة بالتزام واجتهاد شوية
نزلت الكتاب ده علشان أقرا منه شوية كل فترة يمكن يساعدنى على احداث تغيير
من المقدمة لقيت أنطونى روبنز بيتحدانى أخلص الكتاب
وطقت فى دماغى ان ماشى خلاص لازم أخلص الكتاب
بقيت أقرا شوية منه كل شوية قريبين واحيانا كل يوم
ما ركزتش على التمارين قوى علشان مش أكسل عن قراءة الكتاب
المثير للاهتمام انى فعلا كنت صادقة نوعا فى قرار التغيير
وحاجات زى الكتاب ده ساعدتنى على الثبات عليه
كنت ساعات احس انى رجعت تانى مش اذاكر أول بأول ، بس بعد كده تيجى فترة أعوض فيها الحاجات المتأخرة
وفعلاً فى النهاية كنت خلصت معظم المنهج
ودرجاتى فى امتحان التيرم ارتفعت عن قبل كده
مع ان كان ممكن أفضل أستخدم نفس الأسلوب القديم وأحصل على نفس النتائج
والكتاب ده أحد أهم الحاجات اللى ساعدتنى لانه ببساطة حول تفكيرى شوية من واحدة شايفة كل حاجة صعبة لواحدة باحاول وبأعمل اللى عليا
guess what ?
وبانجح
يمكن لحد نص الكتاب كنت باقول لنفسى انا هاخلصه هاقرر ما اقراش أى كتب تنمية بشرية تانى - بس بعد كده بعيد باقرا لانه عاجبنى وبقيت عايزة اقرا كتب م النوعية دى تانى بعد فترة ومع حسن انتقاء الكتاب وأسلوب المؤلف
ملاحظات : فى ناس بتقول ان علم التنمية البشرية وكتب التنمية البشرية ضحك ع العقول وملهمش لزمة - وانا كنت منهم نوعا ما -
بس اكتشفت من هنا
ان التنمية البشرية ثرية جدا لما بتركز على الأساس النفسى وتغيير نمط تفكيرنا وانفعالنا
ولو شايف ملهاش فايدة فده معناه اما انك جربت قراءة كتب على قدها أو مدربين على قدهم
أو انك قريت كتاب فى ساعتين وما عملتش بيه كمان
- أنا قررت بعد كده لو قريت تنمية بشرية تانى مش هألزم نفسى بوقت أو اقرا الكتاب فى السريع لأن القراءة فى زمن طويل وعلى أجزاء صغيرة بتساعدنى على الحفاظ على الحالة لفترة أطول وانسيابها داخلى لمدى أعمق
- أنتونى روبنز فعلا مدرب تنمية بشرية محترف ويعتبر خبير نفسى مش مجرد خطوات اشرب كوباية مية والكلام ده
- الكتاب ده + قسم التنمية البشرية عندنا فى الكلية بيوحوا لى ان دخولى عالم التنمية البشرية عن قرب أوى حاجة مش مستبعدة وممكن الاقينى فيها فى أى وقت
وأخيراً أنصحكم بقراءة الكتاب
بس مش ع السريع
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تحديث:
وانا باكتب الريفيو ده في 2012 مكنتش أعرف اني هانضم لمركز التنمية البشرية بالفعل في 2014 وهأحب ادخل المجال فعلاً
لسه محتاجة اشتغل على نفسي كتير :)
وأنا محتاجة جداً لكتاب تنمية بشرية يكون غير تقليدى :)
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تحديث :
استغرق منى هذا الكتاب قرابة 8 شهور
تجربتى مع الكتاب ده :
كنت حاسة بالفشل دراسياً فى الكلية فقررت أبدأ السنة بالتزام واجتهاد شوية
نزلت الكتاب ده علشان أقرا منه شوية كل فترة يمكن يساعدنى على احداث تغيير
من المقدمة لقيت أنطونى روبنز بيتحدانى أخلص الكتاب
وطقت فى دماغى ان ماشى خلاص لازم أخلص الكتاب
بقيت أقرا شوية منه كل شوية قريبين واحيانا كل يوم
ما ركزتش على التمارين قوى علشان مش أكسل عن قراءة الكتاب
المثير للاهتمام انى فعلا كنت صادقة نوعا فى قرار التغيير
وحاجات زى الكتاب ده ساعدتنى على الثبات عليه
كنت ساعات احس انى رجعت تانى مش اذاكر أول بأول ، بس بعد كده تيجى فترة أعوض فيها الحاجات المتأخرة
وفعلاً فى النهاية كنت خلصت معظم المنهج
ودرجاتى فى امتحان التيرم ارتفعت عن قبل كده
مع ان كان ممكن أفضل أستخدم نفس الأسلوب القديم وأحصل على نفس النتائج
والكتاب ده أحد أهم الحاجات اللى ساعدتنى لانه ببساطة حول تفكيرى شوية من واحدة شايفة كل حاجة صعبة لواحدة باحاول وبأعمل اللى عليا
guess what ?
وبانجح
يمكن لحد نص الكتاب كنت باقول لنفسى انا هاخلصه هاقرر ما اقراش أى كتب تنمية بشرية تانى - بس بعد كده بعيد باقرا لانه عاجبنى وبقيت عايزة اقرا كتب م النوعية دى تانى بعد فترة ومع حسن انتقاء الكتاب وأسلوب المؤلف
ملاحظات : فى ناس بتقول ان علم التنمية البشرية وكتب التنمية البشرية ضحك ع العقول وملهمش لزمة - وانا كنت منهم نوعا ما -
بس اكتشفت من هنا
ان التنمية البشرية ثرية جدا لما بتركز على الأساس النفسى وتغيير نمط تفكيرنا وانفعالنا
ولو شايف ملهاش فايدة فده معناه اما انك جربت قراءة كتب على قدها أو مدربين على قدهم
أو انك قريت كتاب فى ساعتين وما عملتش بيه كمان
- أنا قررت بعد كده لو قريت تنمية بشرية تانى مش هألزم نفسى بوقت أو اقرا الكتاب فى السريع لأن القراءة فى زمن طويل وعلى أجزاء صغيرة بتساعدنى على الحفاظ على الحالة لفترة أطول وانسيابها داخلى لمدى أعمق
- أنتونى روبنز فعلا مدرب تنمية بشرية محترف ويعتبر خبير نفسى مش مجرد خطوات اشرب كوباية مية والكلام ده
- الكتاب ده + قسم التنمية البشرية عندنا فى الكلية بيوحوا لى ان دخولى عالم التنمية البشرية عن قرب أوى حاجة مش مستبعدة وممكن الاقينى فيها فى أى وقت
وأخيراً أنصحكم بقراءة الكتاب
بس مش ع السريع
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تحديث:
وانا باكتب الريفيو ده في 2012 مكنتش أعرف اني هانضم لمركز التنمية البشرية بالفعل في 2014 وهأحب ادخل المجال فعلاً
لسه محتاجة اشتغل على نفسي كتير :)
January 2, 2011
It is true you only get out of life what you put in.
I refer to your thoughts and your mindset.
We are a product of how we use our mind. Anthony Robbins is teaching that in this book.
If you want a get rich book I would not consider buying or reading this book. This book will make you rich but rich in mind, body, spirit and material wealth will follow if that is your desire.
Anthony does not proclaim to may you materially rich by using his techniques. What he is doing is showing you the power of your mind and how you can use it to enjoy your life and live it the way you want to.
So ignore the critics if you are looking to change your life in any way. Learn the power of your thoughts and how you can live each day to the fullest.
I was bitter and angry this morning and on reading a section from Anthony's book on the train to work I put the techniques to work and I now feel great. It is that simple. We are what we think!
I have read this book 3 times so far. I think it is an important part of assisting in taking control of your own personal world.
I refer to your thoughts and your mindset.
We are a product of how we use our mind. Anthony Robbins is teaching that in this book.
If you want a get rich book I would not consider buying or reading this book. This book will make you rich but rich in mind, body, spirit and material wealth will follow if that is your desire.
Anthony does not proclaim to may you materially rich by using his techniques. What he is doing is showing you the power of your mind and how you can use it to enjoy your life and live it the way you want to.
So ignore the critics if you are looking to change your life in any way. Learn the power of your thoughts and how you can live each day to the fullest.
I was bitter and angry this morning and on reading a section from Anthony's book on the train to work I put the techniques to work and I now feel great. It is that simple. We are what we think!
I have read this book 3 times so far. I think it is an important part of assisting in taking control of your own personal world.
January 14, 2011
Probably one of the most popular self-help books ever written. I found it inspiring and insightful, although not all that original. Most of it was just common sense and standard psychology, particularly behaviorism and cognitive-behavioral therapy. The gist is that we can change our lives by changing our beliefs and thoughts, and associating pain with bad habits and pleasure with more beneficial habits.
While it's always good when someone makes psychology more accessible to the layman, there's something about this book, and Tony Robbins in general, that feels way too much like he's trying to bottle it and sell it. For example, there is a very common, though inspiring, sentiment in American culture that we can and should constantly better ourselves. But Tony Robbins had to invent an acronym and trademark it: CANI!(tm), which stands for "Constant and Neverending Improvement!" Which brings me to his writing style! Why must he end every other sentence with an exclamation point? It makes it exhausting to read!
Seriously though, I know there are plenty of people who feel totally comfortable to business- and marketing-speak, who find Tony Robbins sincere and invigorating. More than once, I found myself thinking big, imagining what other great things I might want to accomplish in my life.
While it's always good when someone makes psychology more accessible to the layman, there's something about this book, and Tony Robbins in general, that feels way too much like he's trying to bottle it and sell it. For example, there is a very common, though inspiring, sentiment in American culture that we can and should constantly better ourselves. But Tony Robbins had to invent an acronym and trademark it: CANI!(tm), which stands for "Constant and Neverending Improvement!" Which brings me to his writing style! Why must he end every other sentence with an exclamation point? It makes it exhausting to read!
Seriously though, I know there are plenty of people who feel totally comfortable to business- and marketing-speak, who find Tony Robbins sincere and invigorating. More than once, I found myself thinking big, imagining what other great things I might want to accomplish in my life.
October 21, 2011
هذه السلسلة من الكتب المترجمة الى العربية والتي تباع بالملايين في الدول المتقدمة لا تناسب ابدا واقع بلادنا العربية في النهج الروتيني لمؤسساتها وشركاتها سواء الحكومية منها او الخاصة وقد يقع عليك تطبيق ما في هذه الكتب بوبال كبير عليك ولا انصح ابدا باقنتاءها عموما الكتاب ممل وساذج .وقعت في فخ شرائه وندمت.فهذا الهراء الامريكي ما هو الا هرج سخيف يقدم النصائح المعلبة بسطحية
February 21, 2012
Recommended to read this book by a friend. I read about 100 pages into it and decided that Anthony Robbins is really just full of himself, and is very long winded in telling you why. Has some good quotes, and his logic and methods make sense, but I grew tired of hearing about how successful he was an why between each point he expressed.
December 18, 2017
Sounds like a cheesy infomercial
November 18, 2020
This is just another pep-talk life-advice book that contains zero substance and only vague action items. Here's a summary of how to succeed according to this book:
1. Want success. Believe in yourself and embrace positive thinking.
2. Make a plan to change yourself.
3. Do it!
That's all it takes!
All of the advice given is as vague as a horoscope and the action items are a waste of time. The exercises include things like writing down your top 8 values, write down 5 memorable experiences, answer the question, "Who am I?", make a list of the elements of your identity, write down all the emotions you feel in a week, etc.
Tony Robbins is a great cheerleader. If that's what you need, this might be your jam.
I'm slowly finding out that most self-help books are written by people who became successful by writing self-help books.
1. Want success. Believe in yourself and embrace positive thinking.
2. Make a plan to change yourself.
3. Do it!
That's all it takes!
All of the advice given is as vague as a horoscope and the action items are a waste of time. The exercises include things like writing down your top 8 values, write down 5 memorable experiences, answer the question, "Who am I?", make a list of the elements of your identity, write down all the emotions you feel in a week, etc.
Tony Robbins is a great cheerleader. If that's what you need, this might be your jam.
I'm slowly finding out that most self-help books are written by people who became successful by writing self-help books.
May 8, 2012
Quotes in the book
-The greatest leverage you can create for yourself is the pain that comes from inside, not outside. Knowing that you have failed to live up to your own standards for your life is the ultimate pain
-It states “the desire for gain must exceed the fear of failure” in order to accomplish something.
-Once we effect a change, we should reinforce it immediately. Then, we have to condition our nervous system to succeed not just once, but consistently
-The difference between acting badly or brilliantly is not based on your ability, but on the state of your mind and/or body in any given moment
-All too often, the security of a mediocre present is more comfortable than the adventure of trying to be more in the future
- Determination is the wake-up call to the human will."
CANI -Constant And Never-ending Improvement
"It must be constant commitment backed up by action."
Questions you should answer about yourself:
1. What have I given today?
2. What have I learned today?
3. How has my day added to the quality of my life?
This guy has great energy!
-The greatest leverage you can create for yourself is the pain that comes from inside, not outside. Knowing that you have failed to live up to your own standards for your life is the ultimate pain
-It states “the desire for gain must exceed the fear of failure” in order to accomplish something.
-Once we effect a change, we should reinforce it immediately. Then, we have to condition our nervous system to succeed not just once, but consistently
-The difference between acting badly or brilliantly is not based on your ability, but on the state of your mind and/or body in any given moment
-All too often, the security of a mediocre present is more comfortable than the adventure of trying to be more in the future
- Determination is the wake-up call to the human will."
CANI -Constant And Never-ending Improvement
"It must be constant commitment backed up by action."
Questions you should answer about yourself:
1. What have I given today?
2. What have I learned today?
3. How has my day added to the quality of my life?
This guy has great energy!
January 5, 2014
كتاب يبيع الحلم بثمن في متناول اليد. يوقظ العملاق في داخلك أمد تقليب صفحاته. ما أن تغلق الكتاب حتى يغط العملاق في سبات عميق. ماعدا (دع القلق وابدأ الحياة) لم اقتنع بأن كتب تطوير الذات تقدم جديدا. نفس الهراء بمصطلحات جديدة. ومع كل يوم يطل علينا "مدرب عالمي" جديد، كان عامل نظافة ثم أصبح رائد فضاء وجاء يتفضل علينا بفائض حكمته. بالنسبة لي، كتاب واحد منها يكفي، حيث أنها تعج بالنصائح العامة التي لايمكن تطبيقها على الجميع وفي أي محيط وأي زمان. هي فقط تعمل على اقناعك بإمكانية النجاح. أعرف الكثير من الشبان ممن حفظوا الكثير من هذه الكتب عن ظهر قلب، وحضروا كما هائلا من المحاضرات بنفس الطابع، وماوجدتهم سوى فالحين في فلسفة الأمور والحماس دون تطور ملموس. ليس هذا تعميما فلعل البعض لمسوا شيئا من الفائدة. لن أقرأ المزيد من هذه الكتب وسأدع العملاق يغفو كما يحلو له.
October 15, 2012
Anthony Robbins is one of the most well known self-improvement and motivational speakers. Even though his first book 'Awaken the Giant Within' was published more than a decade ago, it still holds immense relevance in today's world. This is a book packed with plenty of strategies on how to take charge of your emotions, health, relationships and finances. It is a holistic book that offers timeless philosophies that can help you reach your true goals and discover your passion in life.
I have read several self-help books and while most were helpful, I find 'Awaken the Giant Within' a very well thought-out book. Self-help books tend to lean too much on the advice, but offer little in the way of execution. This book seems to be more of a practical, strategic guide than a book of superficial hope, which is a good thing. I would completely recommend it to anyone looking to bypass the fluff, hype or superficial positive thinking literature for a more substantial read.
I would recommend to read it a couple of times in order to understand and implement the underlying philosophies. Robbins' literature is heavily influenced by Neuro-linguistic Programming (NLP), which might at times be a bit complex to get the hang of.
I have read several self-help books and while most were helpful, I find 'Awaken the Giant Within' a very well thought-out book. Self-help books tend to lean too much on the advice, but offer little in the way of execution. This book seems to be more of a practical, strategic guide than a book of superficial hope, which is a good thing. I would completely recommend it to anyone looking to bypass the fluff, hype or superficial positive thinking literature for a more substantial read.
I would recommend to read it a couple of times in order to understand and implement the underlying philosophies. Robbins' literature is heavily influenced by Neuro-linguistic Programming (NLP), which might at times be a bit complex to get the hang of.
October 16, 2017
The giant within is desperate for money, approval, recognition and fame, and can’t stand living in a small apartment, but needs things in excess to feel “happy”.
November 7, 2019
يبين لك هذا الكتاب أكثر الأساليب والاستراتيجيات فعالية فيما يخص التحكم بعواطفك وجسمك وعلاقاتك وأمورك المالية أي بمختلف جوانب حياتك. ويقدم لك برنامجاً يقودك من خلاله خطوة خطوة ويوفر لك الدروس الأساسية التي تساعدك على التحكم بحياتك. وهو بهذا يمكنك من اكتشاف أهداف حياتك الحقيقية ويدلك كيف يمكنك أن تسيطر على أمور حياتك بحيث تتحكم بكل القوى التي من شأنها أن تشكل مسار حياتك. وهو أداة عميقة و فعالة في ترسانة أنتوني روبنز للتعرف على بواطن نفسه.
على رغم انه لست مع الكتب التي تتكلم عن التنمية الذاتية ولكن التجربة غير ضارة وخاصة مع اشهر شخص في هذه المجال, الكتاب انا استفد منه في القصص والحكم والاشياء التي تكلم عنه وكانت امثلة ممتازة وتستطيع ان تستفاد منه جدا, ونستطيع ان نقول سوف تاتي في حياتك او تسمعه في حياتك اليومية.
الكتاب صحيح يقول اشياء يمكن ان لا تناسبك في حياتك او تقول هذه من خيال ولكن اخذ الجانب الذي سوف تستفاد منه او الذي تستطيع ان تفعله ويمكن ان يغير شيء في حياتك حتى اذا لم يغير بشكل كبير ولكن تغيير صغير يولد تغيير اكبر, مثلما قلت هذه النوعية من الكتب ليس شرط ان تقراءه بشكل متواصل بل بين فترة وفترة كـ كتاب جانبي تقراءه في وقت الفراغ او الابتعاد عن بقية الانواع من الكتب.
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This book shows you the most effective methods and strategies in terms of controlling your emotions, your body, your relationships and your finances in different aspects of your life. It offers a step-by-step program that provides you with basic lessons to help you control your life. It enables you to discover your real life goals and how you can control your life so that you control all the forces that will shape your life. It is a profound and effective tool in the arsenal of Anthony Robbins to identify himself.
Although I am not with books that talk about self-development, but the experience is not harmful, especially with the most famous person in this area, the book I took advantage of it in the stories and judgment and things that talked about and were excellent examples and you can benefit from it very, and we can say will come in your life Or hear it in your daily life.
True Scripture says things that may not suit you in your life or say these are fiction but taking the side that you will benefit from or that you can do and can change something in your life even if it does not change dramatically but small change generates greater change, as I said this quality Of books is not a requirement that you read it continuously, but between period and period as a side book read in spare time or away from the rest of the types of books.
على رغم انه لست مع الكتب التي تتكلم عن التنمية الذاتية ولكن التجربة غير ضارة وخاصة مع اشهر شخص في هذه المجال, الكتاب انا استفد منه في القصص والحكم والاشياء التي تكلم عنه وكانت امثلة ممتازة وتستطيع ان تستفاد منه جدا, ونستطيع ان نقول سوف تاتي في حياتك او تسمعه في حياتك اليومية.
الكتاب صحيح يقول اشياء يمكن ان لا تناسبك في حياتك او تقول هذه من خيال ولكن اخذ الجانب الذي سوف تستفاد منه او الذي تستطيع ان تفعله ويمكن ان يغير شيء في حياتك حتى اذا لم يغير بشكل كبير ولكن تغيير صغير يولد تغيير اكبر, مثلما قلت هذه النوعية من الكتب ليس شرط ان تقراءه بشكل متواصل بل بين فترة وفترة كـ كتاب جانبي تقراءه في وقت الفراغ او الابتعاد عن بقية الانواع من الكتب.
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This book shows you the most effective methods and strategies in terms of controlling your emotions, your body, your relationships and your finances in different aspects of your life. It offers a step-by-step program that provides you with basic lessons to help you control your life. It enables you to discover your real life goals and how you can control your life so that you control all the forces that will shape your life. It is a profound and effective tool in the arsenal of Anthony Robbins to identify himself.
Although I am not with books that talk about self-development, but the experience is not harmful, especially with the most famous person in this area, the book I took advantage of it in the stories and judgment and things that talked about and were excellent examples and you can benefit from it very, and we can say will come in your life Or hear it in your daily life.
True Scripture says things that may not suit you in your life or say these are fiction but taking the side that you will benefit from or that you can do and can change something in your life even if it does not change dramatically but small change generates greater change, as I said this quality Of books is not a requirement that you read it continuously, but between period and period as a side book read in spare time or away from the rest of the types of books.
April 20, 2014
Anthony Robbins is one who needs no introduction as far as Personal Development goes. Reading Awaken the Giant within is akin to attending a spiritual retreat/workshop. This book is a whooping 500 and some pages. I purchased it about 2years ago but never quite got around to it. All along I kept saying to my friends that I know this book will change my life and indeed it has. I will never be the same again. This book is not to be read passively. Clear your schedule, grab a book mark, pencil, jotter or whatever you need. Forget speed reading though, because this is one book you want to sink your teeth into and soak in every word. Do the work! Awaken the Giant within is a very practical book. There's a lot of exercises to do in book especially in chapter 12 which is entitled creating a compelling future. These little workshops help you identify your desires, goals and aspirations. This is one book that it will do you well to read once every month.
The first thing that jumps off the page for me is that in order to create long lasting change you have to follow 3 principles:
1 Raise your standards
Write down what you will no longer tolerate from yourself. The only way to change an organization, the world or yourself is by raising your standards. Rosa Parks typifies the example of raised standards in 1955 when she refused to give up her seat to a White person as she was legally required to. This act of civil disobedience inspired a whirlwind of controversy which was the beginning of the civil rights movement.
2 Change your limiting Beliefs
If you raise your standards and you don't really believe that you can meet them, you have sabotaged yourself already. You must develop a sense of certainty that you can and will meet your goals. Ed Roberts exemplifies someone who raised his standards and transcended his limiting beliefs. Ed Roberts was confined to a wheelchair for a number of years. He did not let that deter him. He set to add value to a world he sometimes found condescending. Ed is responsible for creating wheelchair access ramps, special parking spaces and became the first quadriplegic to graduate from University of California. 'It is not where you start out but your decision about where you are determined to end up.'
3 Change your strategy
Find a role model- someone who is already getting results in the area of your interest and mirror that person. You can have as many role models as aspirations. We are blessed to live in a generation where the world is our oyster. Your role model must not necessarily live in your city, you can connect with people just as easily on the internet.
Having identified the 3 principles for lasting change, we will move on to the decisions that control your destiny. These are decisions on:
1 What to focus on
2 What things mean to you
3 What to do to create the results you desire
You can be sure that if someone is enjoying greater success than you in an area, they are making 3 decisions different than you are in some context. Keeping in mind that nothing in life has meaning except the meaning you give to it. Furthermore it is not what happened to you in the past or what is happening now that determines who you become. The only defining factor is how you interpret these events.
Tony goes on to give analogies of people who have come from potentially damaging backgrounds and come out straight. He also gives examples of others who came from privilege and still ended up with drug addictions. One of such examples is two brothers who were raised by a father who was often chemically induced and in and out of jail. One of the sons followed in his father's footsteps . The other brother became a dedicated family man and a manager in a top multinational company. When asked individually why they became the people that they are today, surprisingly they both gave the same answer “ Given my family history, I don't see how I would have turned out any differently.” That just goes to emphasize the fact that it is not what happens to you that determines the trajectory of your life but what meaning you give to the experience.
Our beliefs are very important. They shape our destinies. Beliefs are a feeling of certainty we have created over a period of time based on our opinions and references(our experiences, the opinions of our friends, family and society). In order to direct our lives, we must take conscious control over our beliefs because under all that we think, lives all that we believe.
Now that we have established what beliefs are and the power that they hold over us. There are 3 patterns of beliefs that cause us to feel helpless.
1 Permanence
You have to develop an attitude that no matter what curve ball life throws your way- this too shall pass.
2 Pervasiveness
An achiever does not see a problem as controlling their whole life. They have a conviction that whatever problem they may encounter they have the intelligence to come up with a solution.
3 Personal
Don't see a problem as a personal flaw. If you fail at something. What that is is an invitation to change your approach. Failure in and of itself does not exist in life- only results. Success is the result of good judgement. Good judgement is the result of experience which can only be gotten as a result of bad judgement.
If successful people are honest with you, they will tell you that the reason they have succeeded is because they have made more poor choices than most people. Tony gives an illustration about how important it is to fail constantly and on a grandiose scale. When Anthony Robbins was in his twenties, he identified a goal for himself which was public speaking. Even though he was not very good at it at first, he would book himself 3 times a day to anyone who would listen. As a result he began to stand out among his peers because he had accumulated about a decade worth of experience in one year. Then his associates started commenting on how lucky he was to have an innate talent. When in reality where he excelled was ridiculous work ethic and his ability to put himself out there- his constant and consistent effort was paying off.
Other examples of people who did the work and persevered in the face of adversity are Soichiro Honda. In 1938, he designed his first car which did not meet the standards of Toyota when he presented it to them. This inspired him to go back to school. At school he created another model which was heavily mocked by his instructors and fellow students. Though the odds were against him, Soichiro persisted.
Unfortunately the war was going on at the time and his factory was bombed twice. Instead of seeing this as a set back, Soichiro took the empty gasoline cans which the US fighters discarded and used it as concrete to build his cars. He called them gifts from President Truman. Not long after he bounced back from this, there was an earthquake that levelled the factory followed by a shortage of gasoline. During the scarcity, Soichiro attached a motor to his bicycle and used it to get around. It wasn't very long before his neighbours began to request that he replicate the bicycle with a motor for them. Seeing an obvious niche, but lacking the capital he wrote 18,000 bicycle shop owners inviting them to invest in this venture. 5000 of them advanced the capital. When the bikes were first created the sales were not encouraging because the bikes were too bulky. Soichiro made one last adjustment and made them a light weight and called them the supercub. He won the Emperors award and became an 'overnight success.'
Also worth noting are some rejection notices/feedback that were received by these famous and incredibly successful authors listed below:
Animal Farm, by George Orwell
“It is impossible to sell animal stories in the USA.”
The Diary of Anne Frank, by Anne Frank
“The girl doesn't, it seems to me, have a special perception or feeling which would lift that book above the 'curiosity' level.”
Lord of the Flies, by William Golding
“It does not seem to us you have been wholly successful in working out an admittedly promising idea.”
Lady Chatterlay's Lover, by D.H Lawerence
“For your own good do not publish this book.”
Lust for Life, by Irving Stone
“A long, dull novel about an artist.”
There are three lessons to come away with from the notices above.
1 Success is not overnight or short term. Persevere and you may succeed with the next blow.
2 God's delays are not God's denials. Learn to honour lag time. If you are in the winter of your life, hang in there because spring is just around the corner.
The third underlying lesson is the fact that social proof is seldom ever accurate. An experiment on social proof was conducted in which someone yells “Rape!” for a subjects benefit. Simultaneously two people were planted very close by and were given instructions to ignore the cries. When the subject looked around and saw that no one was responding to the situation. He decided that the cries were insignificant and mirrored everyone else's behaviour.
Another example is the story of Copernicus. In the days of the Seminal Polish astronomer, everyone was convinced that the sun moved around the earth because wherever they walked there it was. However in 1543 Copernicus created the first representative model of our sun- based solar system. Copernicus had the courage to challenge the 'wisdom' of the experts like other giants through the ages. It wasn't until after Copernicus lifetime that his theories were finally accepted as truth.
Perhaps a more factual example that hits closer to home. Research has increasingly shown that there is a positive correlation between the amount of animal protein an individual consumes and their likelihood to develop cancer or heart disease. In fact the 3000 member committee responsible for Medicine put in a request for the department of Agriculture to drop meat, fish, poultry, eggs, and milk products from the recommended daily allowances. This dramatic shift in beliefs has brought chaos in many quarters. This is not uncommon because like the German philosopher Arthur Schopenhauer says, all truth goes through three steps:
First, it is ridiculed
Second, it is violently opposed
Finally, it is accepted as self- evident
Using social proof is a great way to limit your life. As Tony says most people live their lives in what he refers to as the Niagara syndrome. They just follow what everyone else does and drift which ever way the wind blows without consciously making a decision about where they want to end up. They never really stop and ask themselves the existential questions that inspire passionate living. People often overestimate what they can achieve in a year and underestimate what they can achieve in a decade. 10 years from now you will surely arrive. The question is where. It is not what we do once in a while that shapes our destiny, but what we consistently do. Repetition is the mother of skill.
Although we cannot trust social proof, one thing we can always rely on is our values to steer us in the right direction. The only way to feel happy and fulfilled in the longterm is if we are living lives which are consistent with our true values. What are my values you might say. You probably haven't articulated them on a piece of paper(which is very helpful by the way) but we all have them. Tony outlines the most common values across the board that people willingly identify with, which are:
Love
Success
Freedom(Individuality)
Security
Adventure
Power
Passion
Comfort
Health
And some values that we will do anything to avoid, namely:
Rejection. Anger. Frustration. Loneliness. Depression. Failure. Humiliation. Guilt
And how we rank these values on a scale of 1 to 10 largely determines our behaviour. Although we need to make sure that the values that we are moving towards do not clash in hierarchy with the ones we aspire to move away from. To succeed we must not only evaluate our values to see if they are in line with the person we want to become, we must also ascertain if we are leaving out some core values that could potentially be more helpful to us. For instance, as an individual one of the values on the top of my hierarchy is individuality. I value my alone time. However since I have decided with every fibre of my being the life I want to create for myself, I have to leverage some of my individuality/ alone time for say networking.
In line with our values is something called the ten emotions of power which are:
1 Love and Warmth
Believe that all communication is either a loving response or a cry for help.
2 Appreciation and Gratitude
Two of the most spiritual emotions. Living in this state will enhance your life immensely.
3 Curiosity
Be curious like a child. When you are curious nothing is a chore.
4 Excitement and Passion
'Passion is the unbridled power to move our lives forward at a faster tempo than ever before.'
5 Determination
'Determination is the wake-up call to the human will.' Decide on something and cut off any other possibility.
6 Flexibility
'Choosing to be flexible is choosing to be happy.' Modify your approach where necessary.
7 Confidence
'The ability to act on faith is what moves the human race forward.' Take that leap!
8 Cheerfulness
Enhances your self-esteem, makes life more fun, and makes the people around you feel happier as well.
9 Vitality
Take care of your body
10 Contribution
'The secret to living is giving.' But don't play martyr.
On the other side of the continuum are emotions that alert us that we need to change the direction of our focus. These emotions Tony refers to as action signals, which are: discomfort, fear, hurt, anger, frustration, disappointment, guilt, inadequacy, overload/overwhelm, loneliness.
A powerful way to switch focus when we are in one of these disenpowering states is by using Transformational Vocabulary and metaphors. Instead of saying something like “ I am so aggravated, I am just about to explode.” You could say something like “I am feeling a tad out of sorts,” or “I'm just a bit peeved,” or “I'm beginning to get a smidge cranky.” Also, remember that whenever you get upset and lose control- the other guy wins.
Other transformational words you might use are
Word/Phrase Modifier
Insecure Questioning
Angry Peeved
Depressed On the road to a turn around
I have to do . . . I get to do . . .
Overwhelmed Overloaded
In addition to modifiers, another winning tip is to model our lives after successful people we admire. Leaders are readers. Read biographies, mirror their mannerisms, body language, the way they relate to people etc. Also acknowledge the fact that great leaders are rarely ever realistic. With enough emotional intensity your nervous system can experience something as real even though it has not happened yet. Success manifests in the emotional realm first, before it materializes in the physical. You have to believe without an element of doubt that you have succeeded already. And you must begin to carry yourself in the way that that person you have become would. Does that mean you will be extremely cheerful knowing that everyday is a gift? Or will you start to recognize the various ways in which you are unbelievably blessed. Or will you be playful and find humour in the little things in life? And how will you treat the people around you? 'With the kind of dignity, respect, compassion and love that this person would.'
Having said that you need to associate with positive people who inspire you and have the same values as you because you become the people you spend the most time with. Also you must realize that successful people do not sweat the small stuff. Cultivate the habit of removing weeds out of your garden with a playfulness, lest you will be upset all of your life. Tony gives an example about how one of his CEOs absconded with his money rendering his company bankrupt and how he handled the situation.
'We first make our habits, then our habits make us.' Know how to move yourself from a disempowering state to to an empowering one by asking the right questions. For example:
1 What can I learn from this situation if I wanted to?
2 What is not perfect yet about this situation?
'Superior evaluations create superior lives.'
'18 or 80 you still need something to drive you forward.' “Where there is no vision, the people perish.” If you are not absolutely thrilled to get out of bed every morning, your dreams are not big enough. To be truly happy and fulfilled, every day we must expand the rims of who we believe ourselves to be. Do not get stuck in any one identity. Change up your routine. Go ride in the back of a police patrol car in your local “ride along' program. Go scuba diving. Go sky diving. Take a helicopter lesson. Ask yourself empowering questions like:
What more can I be?
What more will I be?
Who am I becoming?
Colonel Sanders woke up at the age of 65 and could no longer bear the pain of his meagre retirement checks. SO what did he do? He decided he was going to become a leading merchant in the fast food industry. When you have a strong enough why, you can bear almost any how.
Whatever you and I begin to identify with, we will become. Experience is not what happens to a man, but what he does with what happens to him. Do not think of who you have been but who you are now. Commit yourself to CANI( Constant And Never-ending Improvement). 'If you are going to err in life, err on the side of overestimating your capabilities.' Do not get caught up in limiting beliefs. Maybe you have failed one or two times in the past and you now have a global/giant belief that you are a failure. Perhaps you might have encountered some people who treated you really harshly and as a result you assume that people are generally evil. What if you adopt a global belief that serves you better and is in line with your destiny. Despite your references, you can choose to believe that people are wonderful. And if you treat them right they will reciprocate in kind. In addition cultivate the habit of expectancy. The next person you stand behind in line, the next person you seat next to on a plane, the next book you read might just be what will cause the floodgates to open.
With all these skills under your arsenal, as you reach for the stars remember that you will fall short time and time again. Don't beat yourself up, instead learn from your mistakes. That way you will not repeat them. Also, in our pursuit for success and meaning we must always remember that we are not our bodies, we are not our past or our behaviour in the moment, it can all be over in one swift second because we are after all spiritual beings having a human experience as Wayne Dyer puts it. Regardless, the onus is on us to make the best of our time here.
Finally, “If you don't set a baseline standard for what you'll accept in your life, you'll find it easy to slip into behaviours and attitudes or a quality of life that's far below what you deserve. You need to set and live by these standards no matter what happens in your life. Even if it all goes wrong, even if it rains on your parade, even if the stock market crashes, even if your lover leaves you, even if no one gives you the support that you need, you still must stay committed to your decision that you will live your life at the highest level.” SOCIETY MAY PREDICT, BUT ONLY YOU DETERMINE YOUR DESTINY!
The first thing that jumps off the page for me is that in order to create long lasting change you have to follow 3 principles:
1 Raise your standards
Write down what you will no longer tolerate from yourself. The only way to change an organization, the world or yourself is by raising your standards. Rosa Parks typifies the example of raised standards in 1955 when she refused to give up her seat to a White person as she was legally required to. This act of civil disobedience inspired a whirlwind of controversy which was the beginning of the civil rights movement.
2 Change your limiting Beliefs
If you raise your standards and you don't really believe that you can meet them, you have sabotaged yourself already. You must develop a sense of certainty that you can and will meet your goals. Ed Roberts exemplifies someone who raised his standards and transcended his limiting beliefs. Ed Roberts was confined to a wheelchair for a number of years. He did not let that deter him. He set to add value to a world he sometimes found condescending. Ed is responsible for creating wheelchair access ramps, special parking spaces and became the first quadriplegic to graduate from University of California. 'It is not where you start out but your decision about where you are determined to end up.'
3 Change your strategy
Find a role model- someone who is already getting results in the area of your interest and mirror that person. You can have as many role models as aspirations. We are blessed to live in a generation where the world is our oyster. Your role model must not necessarily live in your city, you can connect with people just as easily on the internet.
Having identified the 3 principles for lasting change, we will move on to the decisions that control your destiny. These are decisions on:
1 What to focus on
2 What things mean to you
3 What to do to create the results you desire
You can be sure that if someone is enjoying greater success than you in an area, they are making 3 decisions different than you are in some context. Keeping in mind that nothing in life has meaning except the meaning you give to it. Furthermore it is not what happened to you in the past or what is happening now that determines who you become. The only defining factor is how you interpret these events.
Tony goes on to give analogies of people who have come from potentially damaging backgrounds and come out straight. He also gives examples of others who came from privilege and still ended up with drug addictions. One of such examples is two brothers who were raised by a father who was often chemically induced and in and out of jail. One of the sons followed in his father's footsteps . The other brother became a dedicated family man and a manager in a top multinational company. When asked individually why they became the people that they are today, surprisingly they both gave the same answer “ Given my family history, I don't see how I would have turned out any differently.” That just goes to emphasize the fact that it is not what happens to you that determines the trajectory of your life but what meaning you give to the experience.
Our beliefs are very important. They shape our destinies. Beliefs are a feeling of certainty we have created over a period of time based on our opinions and references(our experiences, the opinions of our friends, family and society). In order to direct our lives, we must take conscious control over our beliefs because under all that we think, lives all that we believe.
Now that we have established what beliefs are and the power that they hold over us. There are 3 patterns of beliefs that cause us to feel helpless.
1 Permanence
You have to develop an attitude that no matter what curve ball life throws your way- this too shall pass.
2 Pervasiveness
An achiever does not see a problem as controlling their whole life. They have a conviction that whatever problem they may encounter they have the intelligence to come up with a solution.
3 Personal
Don't see a problem as a personal flaw. If you fail at something. What that is is an invitation to change your approach. Failure in and of itself does not exist in life- only results. Success is the result of good judgement. Good judgement is the result of experience which can only be gotten as a result of bad judgement.
If successful people are honest with you, they will tell you that the reason they have succeeded is because they have made more poor choices than most people. Tony gives an illustration about how important it is to fail constantly and on a grandiose scale. When Anthony Robbins was in his twenties, he identified a goal for himself which was public speaking. Even though he was not very good at it at first, he would book himself 3 times a day to anyone who would listen. As a result he began to stand out among his peers because he had accumulated about a decade worth of experience in one year. Then his associates started commenting on how lucky he was to have an innate talent. When in reality where he excelled was ridiculous work ethic and his ability to put himself out there- his constant and consistent effort was paying off.
Other examples of people who did the work and persevered in the face of adversity are Soichiro Honda. In 1938, he designed his first car which did not meet the standards of Toyota when he presented it to them. This inspired him to go back to school. At school he created another model which was heavily mocked by his instructors and fellow students. Though the odds were against him, Soichiro persisted.
Unfortunately the war was going on at the time and his factory was bombed twice. Instead of seeing this as a set back, Soichiro took the empty gasoline cans which the US fighters discarded and used it as concrete to build his cars. He called them gifts from President Truman. Not long after he bounced back from this, there was an earthquake that levelled the factory followed by a shortage of gasoline. During the scarcity, Soichiro attached a motor to his bicycle and used it to get around. It wasn't very long before his neighbours began to request that he replicate the bicycle with a motor for them. Seeing an obvious niche, but lacking the capital he wrote 18,000 bicycle shop owners inviting them to invest in this venture. 5000 of them advanced the capital. When the bikes were first created the sales were not encouraging because the bikes were too bulky. Soichiro made one last adjustment and made them a light weight and called them the supercub. He won the Emperors award and became an 'overnight success.'
Also worth noting are some rejection notices/feedback that were received by these famous and incredibly successful authors listed below:
Animal Farm, by George Orwell
“It is impossible to sell animal stories in the USA.”
The Diary of Anne Frank, by Anne Frank
“The girl doesn't, it seems to me, have a special perception or feeling which would lift that book above the 'curiosity' level.”
Lord of the Flies, by William Golding
“It does not seem to us you have been wholly successful in working out an admittedly promising idea.”
Lady Chatterlay's Lover, by D.H Lawerence
“For your own good do not publish this book.”
Lust for Life, by Irving Stone
“A long, dull novel about an artist.”
There are three lessons to come away with from the notices above.
1 Success is not overnight or short term. Persevere and you may succeed with the next blow.
2 God's delays are not God's denials. Learn to honour lag time. If you are in the winter of your life, hang in there because spring is just around the corner.
The third underlying lesson is the fact that social proof is seldom ever accurate. An experiment on social proof was conducted in which someone yells “Rape!” for a subjects benefit. Simultaneously two people were planted very close by and were given instructions to ignore the cries. When the subject looked around and saw that no one was responding to the situation. He decided that the cries were insignificant and mirrored everyone else's behaviour.
Another example is the story of Copernicus. In the days of the Seminal Polish astronomer, everyone was convinced that the sun moved around the earth because wherever they walked there it was. However in 1543 Copernicus created the first representative model of our sun- based solar system. Copernicus had the courage to challenge the 'wisdom' of the experts like other giants through the ages. It wasn't until after Copernicus lifetime that his theories were finally accepted as truth.
Perhaps a more factual example that hits closer to home. Research has increasingly shown that there is a positive correlation between the amount of animal protein an individual consumes and their likelihood to develop cancer or heart disease. In fact the 3000 member committee responsible for Medicine put in a request for the department of Agriculture to drop meat, fish, poultry, eggs, and milk products from the recommended daily allowances. This dramatic shift in beliefs has brought chaos in many quarters. This is not uncommon because like the German philosopher Arthur Schopenhauer says, all truth goes through three steps:
First, it is ridiculed
Second, it is violently opposed
Finally, it is accepted as self- evident
Using social proof is a great way to limit your life. As Tony says most people live their lives in what he refers to as the Niagara syndrome. They just follow what everyone else does and drift which ever way the wind blows without consciously making a decision about where they want to end up. They never really stop and ask themselves the existential questions that inspire passionate living. People often overestimate what they can achieve in a year and underestimate what they can achieve in a decade. 10 years from now you will surely arrive. The question is where. It is not what we do once in a while that shapes our destiny, but what we consistently do. Repetition is the mother of skill.
Although we cannot trust social proof, one thing we can always rely on is our values to steer us in the right direction. The only way to feel happy and fulfilled in the longterm is if we are living lives which are consistent with our true values. What are my values you might say. You probably haven't articulated them on a piece of paper(which is very helpful by the way) but we all have them. Tony outlines the most common values across the board that people willingly identify with, which are:
Love
Success
Freedom(Individuality)
Security
Adventure
Power
Passion
Comfort
Health
And some values that we will do anything to avoid, namely:
Rejection. Anger. Frustration. Loneliness. Depression. Failure. Humiliation. Guilt
And how we rank these values on a scale of 1 to 10 largely determines our behaviour. Although we need to make sure that the values that we are moving towards do not clash in hierarchy with the ones we aspire to move away from. To succeed we must not only evaluate our values to see if they are in line with the person we want to become, we must also ascertain if we are leaving out some core values that could potentially be more helpful to us. For instance, as an individual one of the values on the top of my hierarchy is individuality. I value my alone time. However since I have decided with every fibre of my being the life I want to create for myself, I have to leverage some of my individuality/ alone time for say networking.
In line with our values is something called the ten emotions of power which are:
1 Love and Warmth
Believe that all communication is either a loving response or a cry for help.
2 Appreciation and Gratitude
Two of the most spiritual emotions. Living in this state will enhance your life immensely.
3 Curiosity
Be curious like a child. When you are curious nothing is a chore.
4 Excitement and Passion
'Passion is the unbridled power to move our lives forward at a faster tempo than ever before.'
5 Determination
'Determination is the wake-up call to the human will.' Decide on something and cut off any other possibility.
6 Flexibility
'Choosing to be flexible is choosing to be happy.' Modify your approach where necessary.
7 Confidence
'The ability to act on faith is what moves the human race forward.' Take that leap!
8 Cheerfulness
Enhances your self-esteem, makes life more fun, and makes the people around you feel happier as well.
9 Vitality
Take care of your body
10 Contribution
'The secret to living is giving.' But don't play martyr.
On the other side of the continuum are emotions that alert us that we need to change the direction of our focus. These emotions Tony refers to as action signals, which are: discomfort, fear, hurt, anger, frustration, disappointment, guilt, inadequacy, overload/overwhelm, loneliness.
A powerful way to switch focus when we are in one of these disenpowering states is by using Transformational Vocabulary and metaphors. Instead of saying something like “ I am so aggravated, I am just about to explode.” You could say something like “I am feeling a tad out of sorts,” or “I'm just a bit peeved,” or “I'm beginning to get a smidge cranky.” Also, remember that whenever you get upset and lose control- the other guy wins.
Other transformational words you might use are
Word/Phrase Modifier
Insecure Questioning
Angry Peeved
Depressed On the road to a turn around
I have to do . . . I get to do . . .
Overwhelmed Overloaded
In addition to modifiers, another winning tip is to model our lives after successful people we admire. Leaders are readers. Read biographies, mirror their mannerisms, body language, the way they relate to people etc. Also acknowledge the fact that great leaders are rarely ever realistic. With enough emotional intensity your nervous system can experience something as real even though it has not happened yet. Success manifests in the emotional realm first, before it materializes in the physical. You have to believe without an element of doubt that you have succeeded already. And you must begin to carry yourself in the way that that person you have become would. Does that mean you will be extremely cheerful knowing that everyday is a gift? Or will you start to recognize the various ways in which you are unbelievably blessed. Or will you be playful and find humour in the little things in life? And how will you treat the people around you? 'With the kind of dignity, respect, compassion and love that this person would.'
Having said that you need to associate with positive people who inspire you and have the same values as you because you become the people you spend the most time with. Also you must realize that successful people do not sweat the small stuff. Cultivate the habit of removing weeds out of your garden with a playfulness, lest you will be upset all of your life. Tony gives an example about how one of his CEOs absconded with his money rendering his company bankrupt and how he handled the situation.
'We first make our habits, then our habits make us.' Know how to move yourself from a disempowering state to to an empowering one by asking the right questions. For example:
1 What can I learn from this situation if I wanted to?
2 What is not perfect yet about this situation?
'Superior evaluations create superior lives.'
'18 or 80 you still need something to drive you forward.' “Where there is no vision, the people perish.” If you are not absolutely thrilled to get out of bed every morning, your dreams are not big enough. To be truly happy and fulfilled, every day we must expand the rims of who we believe ourselves to be. Do not get stuck in any one identity. Change up your routine. Go ride in the back of a police patrol car in your local “ride along' program. Go scuba diving. Go sky diving. Take a helicopter lesson. Ask yourself empowering questions like:
What more can I be?
What more will I be?
Who am I becoming?
Colonel Sanders woke up at the age of 65 and could no longer bear the pain of his meagre retirement checks. SO what did he do? He decided he was going to become a leading merchant in the fast food industry. When you have a strong enough why, you can bear almost any how.
Whatever you and I begin to identify with, we will become. Experience is not what happens to a man, but what he does with what happens to him. Do not think of who you have been but who you are now. Commit yourself to CANI( Constant And Never-ending Improvement). 'If you are going to err in life, err on the side of overestimating your capabilities.' Do not get caught up in limiting beliefs. Maybe you have failed one or two times in the past and you now have a global/giant belief that you are a failure. Perhaps you might have encountered some people who treated you really harshly and as a result you assume that people are generally evil. What if you adopt a global belief that serves you better and is in line with your destiny. Despite your references, you can choose to believe that people are wonderful. And if you treat them right they will reciprocate in kind. In addition cultivate the habit of expectancy. The next person you stand behind in line, the next person you seat next to on a plane, the next book you read might just be what will cause the floodgates to open.
With all these skills under your arsenal, as you reach for the stars remember that you will fall short time and time again. Don't beat yourself up, instead learn from your mistakes. That way you will not repeat them. Also, in our pursuit for success and meaning we must always remember that we are not our bodies, we are not our past or our behaviour in the moment, it can all be over in one swift second because we are after all spiritual beings having a human experience as Wayne Dyer puts it. Regardless, the onus is on us to make the best of our time here.
Finally, “If you don't set a baseline standard for what you'll accept in your life, you'll find it easy to slip into behaviours and attitudes or a quality of life that's far below what you deserve. You need to set and live by these standards no matter what happens in your life. Even if it all goes wrong, even if it rains on your parade, even if the stock market crashes, even if your lover leaves you, even if no one gives you the support that you need, you still must stay committed to your decision that you will live your life at the highest level.” SOCIETY MAY PREDICT, BUT ONLY YOU DETERMINE YOUR DESTINY!
May 19, 2014
من أفضل الكتب التي قرأتها هذه السنه. ينبغي قراءته بعقليه متفتحه مستعده للتقبل لان الكاتب يعرض مبادىء اساسية وهامه في اسلوب الحياة. كذلك، هو ليس من الكتب التي تقرأ مرة واحدة ومن ثم تزين المكتبه! شعرت اني ارغب في العودة اليه بين فترة والآخرى. من يبحث عن طريقة سريعه للتغيير او كتاب للتسليه فهذا الكتاب ليس له. هناك الكثير من التمارين / التفكير مرتبط بقراءة الكتاب.
لدي تحفظ على اسلوب الترجمة كان من الممكن ان يتكب بطريقة افضل. بشكل عام كتاب رائع يدعو للتفكر.
لدي تحفظ على اسلوب الترجمة كان من الممكن ان يتكب بطريقة افضل. بشكل عام كتاب رائع يدعو للتفكر.
January 17, 2011
One of the best and most comprehensive personal development books out there. The central message is this: you have the power right now to control how you think, how you feel, and what you do. Everything you could ever want, tangible or not, is all within you. Tony Robbins has a wealth of experience which he essentially puts in its rawest form into this book. I found it a fantastic read and IF IMPLEMENTED, then a sincere aid to your life and whatever you want out of it. HIs techniques I've listed below. However Robbins does a good job of detailing the steps in these techniques in simple plain English - so I recommend giving the book a read. My only true complaint is this -- the book is so meaty and so comprehensive that it makes it very difficult to implement his tools. There is no guidebook, per se. He does, through his website, sell other programs retailing at $200 which offer a 30-day program, a 7-day program, etc. This is a good thing and a bad thing at the same time. Ultimately, read the book, be prepared to use other resources if you have to, and know with certainty that if there is something about your life you would like a little or a lot better, it's all within you to get whatever you choose. Pick one of his techniques and follow through and you'll end up using others too.
- The small decisions you make daily determine your destiny.
- All behaviors can be changed by changing beliefs, values, rules, and identity.
- Ask the right questions! Don't ask "how are you?" Ask "how good are you??" Ask yourself every night, what will I have to do tomorrow for a stellar day? And follow through. Don't ask - what do I really hate about my spouse? THE MIND WILL FIND WHATEVER YOU TELL IT TO SEEK OUT. Instead ask -- what do I really love about my spouse?
- Similarly, the vocabulary you choose will create your own beliefs. Choose wisely.
- We have life values that we never set for ourselves. What if you lived by values that you set yourself? For example, I swear to live by these three values daily: Happiness, Focus/Determination, Gratitude. Imagine a life where every day you lived by these and didn't go to sleep until you had them?
- We decide what things mean to us, the value we attach to them.
- We can hold ourselves to a higher standard.
- Your belief system guides you. If you say you "don't have time," this is merely your belief system and needs to be tweaked.
- To create long-term change, there must be a change in identity. Someone envisions themselves and therefore their identity as a smoker or a former smoker will therefore always crave a cigarette. If he/she changes their identity to feel like a nonsmoker, they indeed create lasting change.
- New references (or experiences) provide the fabric for new beliefs and new identities. A small success that you hang on to and connect with gives you the conviction to know that you CAN succeed. "If I can do this, what else can I do??"
- Gaining pleasure and avoiding pain are the forces that affect every one of our actions. Magnify the appropriate neuroassociation and you'll have full control of your actions.
- Interrupt limiting patterns.
- Weaken your destructive rules. "If I'm quitting smoking I only am doing it cold turkey. I don't need any of those aids out there." Weaken the reference legs of these destructive beliefs.
- The small decisions you make daily determine your destiny.
- All behaviors can be changed by changing beliefs, values, rules, and identity.
- Ask the right questions! Don't ask "how are you?" Ask "how good are you??" Ask yourself every night, what will I have to do tomorrow for a stellar day? And follow through. Don't ask - what do I really hate about my spouse? THE MIND WILL FIND WHATEVER YOU TELL IT TO SEEK OUT. Instead ask -- what do I really love about my spouse?
- Similarly, the vocabulary you choose will create your own beliefs. Choose wisely.
- We have life values that we never set for ourselves. What if you lived by values that you set yourself? For example, I swear to live by these three values daily: Happiness, Focus/Determination, Gratitude. Imagine a life where every day you lived by these and didn't go to sleep until you had them?
- We decide what things mean to us, the value we attach to them.
- We can hold ourselves to a higher standard.
- Your belief system guides you. If you say you "don't have time," this is merely your belief system and needs to be tweaked.
- To create long-term change, there must be a change in identity. Someone envisions themselves and therefore their identity as a smoker or a former smoker will therefore always crave a cigarette. If he/she changes their identity to feel like a nonsmoker, they indeed create lasting change.
- New references (or experiences) provide the fabric for new beliefs and new identities. A small success that you hang on to and connect with gives you the conviction to know that you CAN succeed. "If I can do this, what else can I do??"
- Gaining pleasure and avoiding pain are the forces that affect every one of our actions. Magnify the appropriate neuroassociation and you'll have full control of your actions.
- Interrupt limiting patterns.
- Weaken your destructive rules. "If I'm quitting smoking I only am doing it cold turkey. I don't need any of those aids out there." Weaken the reference legs of these destructive beliefs.
February 16, 2017
I began reading this book after watching the Netflix doc on Anthony Robbins. The skeptical director spoke in length about his doubt and eventual conversion - which is what led me to read one of Robbins' books. I found a lot of the "inspirational" stories generic, overused, and out-dated. Granted, the book was originally written in the early 90s. But the most disappointing part was how these "inspirational" stories lacked depth. Considering that Robbins shares stories from a number of powerful and inspiring people, it was sad to use how he didn't provide a deeper (and in turn more inspiration) account of the lives' of these people. Moreover, the lessons he provides are both basic and not very innovative. Again, that may be because it was written over 20 years ago and so many after have borrowed his ideas.
November 3, 2013
A motivational and practical guide to the power of decisions in reaching our goals. I liked the themes of taking responsibility and continuously improving. It discusses success not only in financial terms, but also mental, emotional, and physical (bodily). It's somewhat overly optimistic at times, but far less cheesy than I expected.
The "giant within" in the title is decision. Our decisions about "how we think, how we feel, and what we do"..."will determine the quality of our present and future."
I liked the chapter on The Power of Life Metaphors, which talks about the psychological effects of words.
I realize this isn't a theology book, but there were a couple items I didn't completely agree with. Robbins says that "God's delays are not God's denials." Although this is sometimes true, it's not universally true. Sometimes (often, actually) God denies us things that we want, because He knows best. In another place, Robbins applies Matthew 7:7 ("Seek and ye shall find") to our material lives, even though in that passage Jesus is speaking of spiritual things.
I read this book because I had heard it referenced several times, and it was included in Self-Help Classics.
Notes
Mastery
• "Mastery takes as long as you want it to take." Take action more frequently to decrease time to mastery.
• "The most powerful way I've learned to compress time is to learn through other people's experience."
Conditioning
• People will do more to avoid pain than to gain pleasure.
• To condition effectively, reward or punish immediately after incident.
• Use a variable schedule of reinforcement. For example, dolphins are sometimes rewarded after first jump, sometimes after fifth, etc. This encourages them to perform consistently.
• Offer jackpots: occasional, unexpected surprises to reinforce behavior.
Goals
• If you have a big enough why to do something - a strong enough set of reasons - you can always figure out how to achieve it.
• Ask yourself, "What kind of person will I have to become in order to achieve all that I want?"
• "Most of us have created numerous ways to feel bad, and only a few ways to feel truly good." "You could be winning and feel like you're losing because the scorecard you're using is unfair." Change your rules so it's easy to feel good and hard to feel bad.
Conduct
• "Go put your creed into your deed." - Ralph Waldo Emerson
• "We are not human beings having a spiritual experience. We are spiritual beings having a human experience." - Pierre Teilhard de Chardin
The "giant within" in the title is decision. Our decisions about "how we think, how we feel, and what we do"..."will determine the quality of our present and future."
I liked the chapter on The Power of Life Metaphors, which talks about the psychological effects of words.
I realize this isn't a theology book, but there were a couple items I didn't completely agree with. Robbins says that "God's delays are not God's denials." Although this is sometimes true, it's not universally true. Sometimes (often, actually) God denies us things that we want, because He knows best. In another place, Robbins applies Matthew 7:7 ("Seek and ye shall find") to our material lives, even though in that passage Jesus is speaking of spiritual things.
I read this book because I had heard it referenced several times, and it was included in Self-Help Classics.
Notes
Mastery
• "Mastery takes as long as you want it to take." Take action more frequently to decrease time to mastery.
• "The most powerful way I've learned to compress time is to learn through other people's experience."
Conditioning
• People will do more to avoid pain than to gain pleasure.
• To condition effectively, reward or punish immediately after incident.
• Use a variable schedule of reinforcement. For example, dolphins are sometimes rewarded after first jump, sometimes after fifth, etc. This encourages them to perform consistently.
• Offer jackpots: occasional, unexpected surprises to reinforce behavior.
Goals
• If you have a big enough why to do something - a strong enough set of reasons - you can always figure out how to achieve it.
• Ask yourself, "What kind of person will I have to become in order to achieve all that I want?"
• "Most of us have created numerous ways to feel bad, and only a few ways to feel truly good." "You could be winning and feel like you're losing because the scorecard you're using is unfair." Change your rules so it's easy to feel good and hard to feel bad.
Conduct
• "Go put your creed into your deed." - Ralph Waldo Emerson
• "We are not human beings having a spiritual experience. We are spiritual beings having a human experience." - Pierre Teilhard de Chardin
July 17, 2020
Bought a couple of Robbin’s books and after sharing a “maybe time for a rewrite” tweet (he slanders the Central Park 5 who have now been proven innocent and victims of the racists prison industrial system in the US), was inundated with links and evidence of Robbin’s sexual and abusive history. I dig deeper. Videos + audio recordings were the nail in the coffin. Even if I did like the material in the book, I cannot - will not - support or endorse someone who behaves and treats women the way he does. If I could give this minus stars, I would.
Ps. The number of times he quotes and idolizes men who have been proven to be of ethical awfulness - Trump, Cosby, Simpson, the list goes on - is telling of his character. If not: rewrite!!!
Also, where are the women in this story?? Surely there must have been some in the 80’s when this book was written...
As an author myself, I would be horrified by what I’d written and would immediately be reworking the whole damn book.
Ps. The number of times he quotes and idolizes men who have been proven to be of ethical awfulness - Trump, Cosby, Simpson, the list goes on - is telling of his character. If not: rewrite!!!
Also, where are the women in this story?? Surely there must have been some in the 80’s when this book was written...
As an author myself, I would be horrified by what I’d written and would immediately be reworking the whole damn book.
April 16, 2018
"What makes a person with a "good background" behave so savagely and without remorse while another gives his own life to rescue complete strangers? What creates a hero, a heel, a criminal, a contributor? What determines the difference in human actions? Throughout my life, I have passionately sought the answer to these questions. One thing is clear to me: human beings are not random creatures; everything we do, we do for a reason. We may not be aware of the reason consciously, but there is undoubtedly a single driving force behind all human behavior. This force impacts every facet of our lives, from our relationships and finances to our bodies and brains. What is this force that is controlling you even now and will continue to do so for the rest of your life? PAIN and PLEASURE! Everything you and I do, we do either out of our need to avoid pain or our desire to gain pleasure.
What is procrastination? It's when you know you should do something, but you still don't do it. Why not? The answer is simple: at some level you believe that taking action in this moment would be more painful than just putting it off. Yet, have you ever had the experience of putting something off for so long that suddenly you felt pressure to just do it, to get it done7 What happened? You changed what you linked pain and pleasure to."
What is procrastination? It's when you know you should do something, but you still don't do it. Why not? The answer is simple: at some level you believe that taking action in this moment would be more painful than just putting it off. Yet, have you ever had the experience of putting something off for so long that suddenly you felt pressure to just do it, to get it done7 What happened? You changed what you linked pain and pleasure to."
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March 16, 2016سمعت عن الكتاب من برنامج خواطر احمد الشقيرى، كان بيقول ان الكتاب ده هو السبب فى توقفه عن التدخين
حطيت الكتاب فى قايمة الكتب اللى ناوى اقراها و ما قريتهوش لانى ما كنتش مقتنع ان كتاب واحد ممكن يخليك تتخلى عن عادة سيئة او تنمى عادة حسنة
اول امبارح قلت ابص عليه و اقراه يمكن يكون كتاب حلو، بصراحة اتصدمت من روعة الكتاب
الكتاب ده لازم يغير حياتك للاحسن، مش لازم تستفيد منه كله، بل اقدر اقول لك انك مش ممكن تستفيد منه كله لان فيه حاجات جواه كتير تناسب شخصيات و ما تناسبش شخصيات تانى
بس خدها منى ، الكتاب ده هيغيرك زى ما غيرنى
ناوى اقراه تانى قريب ان شاء الله بعد بعض التغييرات اللى منتظرها فى حياتى
زعلتنى حاجة واحدة بس، اننا كمسلمين ما عندناش كتب بالمستوى ده رغم ان مبادئ كتير فى الكتاب موجودةفى الاسلام و تعتبر من الاساسيات فيه
دمتم ناجحين
October 13, 2020
This book reads like a a greasy sales pitch, and even though there were some interesting nuggets in there I just couldn't get into it because it felt too slimy. The cult of Tony Robbins is something I have no interest in indulging because I know some of those people and they are truly bonkers.
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May 29, 2013من اجمل الكتب التي قرأت...
كتاب تعلمت منه العديد من مبادئ النجاح
انتوني روبنز ابدع فيه ابداعل جميلا و جمع فيه خلاصة كل قراءلته و سفرايته و تجاربه و تجارب الاخرين
كتاب تعلمت منه العديد من مبادئ النجاح
انتوني روبنز ابدع فيه ابداعل جميلا و جمع فيه خلاصة كل قراءلته و سفرايته و تجاربه و تجارب الاخرين
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December 20, 2014 Offers a few gems in the midst of a lot of relatively redundant jargon the author made whilst developing his personal philosophy. In addition to the redundant jargon, the concepts themselves felt somewhat repetitive, so this book may be better used as a long term repository of uplifting/motivational stories and aphorisms.
Some anecdotes were jarringly clean in the public-relations-censorship type of way, to the extent that may turn off more cynical readers less tolerant of sifting through fluff to find genuine beauty in the form of truly inspirational tales of hardship and success. Many concepts, like those about fitness and neuro-linguistic programming, are outdated (or downright disproven as pseudoscience, in the case of the latter, albeit after the book’s original publication).
These flaws, along with clues here and there that indicate an almost exploitative pragmatism, make me question his authenticity, but my doubts are somewhat tempered by how his contributions through various philanthropic projects significantly outweigh his apparent self-indulgence and commercialization. This was a chore to read at times for the above reasons, but his prose is quite easy to read, barring a few typos. Overall, for the more patient reader, the interspersed snippets of worth may drive one to action that is, more often than not, responsibly life-affirming.
Some anecdotes were jarringly clean in the public-relations-censorship type of way, to the extent that may turn off more cynical readers less tolerant of sifting through fluff to find genuine beauty in the form of truly inspirational tales of hardship and success. Many concepts, like those about fitness and neuro-linguistic programming, are outdated (or downright disproven as pseudoscience, in the case of the latter, albeit after the book’s original publication).
These flaws, along with clues here and there that indicate an almost exploitative pragmatism, make me question his authenticity, but my doubts are somewhat tempered by how his contributions through various philanthropic projects significantly outweigh his apparent self-indulgence and commercialization. This was a chore to read at times for the above reasons, but his prose is quite easy to read, barring a few typos. Overall, for the more patient reader, the interspersed snippets of worth may drive one to action that is, more often than not, responsibly life-affirming.
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