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The founder and CEO of Onnit, the mega lifestyle brand and one of the fastest growing companies in the country, teaches us how one single day of positive choices leads to a lifetime of concrete strategies for better living, optimal performance, and a stronger mind, body, and spirit.

Human optimization thought leader Aubrey Marcus's personal and professional mission rests on a single question: How can we get the most out of our body and mind on a daily basis?

Marcus answers that question in Own the Day, Own Your Life an empowering handbook that guides readers to optimize every moment of the day, from waking in the morning, through work and play, until bedtime each night. With small, actionable changes implemented throughout the course of one day, we can feel better, perform more efficiently, and live happier. And these daily habits turn into weekly routines, ultimately becoming part of lifelong healthy choices.

From workouts and diet to inbox triage, mindfulness, shower temperature, and sex, this ground-breaking manual provides simple strategies for each element of your day. Drawing from the latest studies and traditional practices from around the world, Own the Day, Own Your Life delivers an optimization philosophy, including cutting-edge life-hacking tips, nutritional expertise, brain upgrades, and fitness regiments.

Own the Day, Own Your Life is a must-have choose-your-own-adventure guide for the everyman and everywoman--packed with pragmatic and effective strategies that empower you to enjoy your life, take charge of your health, and own the day.

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Aubrey Marcus (IG: @aubreymarcus) is the founder and CEO of Onnit, a lifestyle brand based on a holistic health philosophy he calls Total Human Optimization. Onnit is an Inc. 500 company and an industry leader with products optimizing millions of lives, including many top professional athletes around the world.

Aubrey currently hosts The Aubrey Marcus Podcast, a motivational destination for conversations with the brightest minds in athletics, business, science, relationships and spirituality with over 10MM downloads on iTunes. He regularly provides commentary to outlets like Entrepreneur, Forbes, The Doctors and The Joe Rogan Experience. He has been featured on the cover of Men's Health, is the author of the course Go For Your Win, and his newest (and first!) book is Own The Day, Own Your Lifefrom HarperCollins.

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Publisher ‏ : ‎ Harperwave
Publication date ‏ : ‎ April 17, 2018
Edition ‏ : ‎ Unabridged
Language ‏ : ‎ English
ISBN-10 ‏ : ‎ 1538500140
ISBN-13 ‏ : ‎ 978-1538500149
Item Weight ‏ : ‎ 8.8 ounces
Dimensions ‏ : ‎ 5.9 x 1.1 x 5.6 inches

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AUBREY MARCUS is the founder of the globally disruptive human optimization brand Onnit and the New York Times bestselling author of Own The Day, Own Your Life. He is a philosopher, poet, and leading experiential voice in the world of psychonautics–Having explored the great plant medicine traditions for over 25 years. He is the host of the Aubrey Marcus Podcast with over 100 million views, and currently resides in his hometown of Austin, Texas.

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Zachary Stewart
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Reviewed in the United States on May 3, 2025
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A great read/listen. Very entertaining and motivating.

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Joel Schierman
Love this book!
Reviewed in the United States on March 4, 2025
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Love this book, this man has wisdom well beyond his age. If you get a chance, listen to his podcasts, follow him on social media, Aubrey Marcus is one of my go-to gurus for healthy body, mind and spirit living.

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Chip Franks
This is a pretty freaking remarkable book.
Reviewed in the United States on April 27, 2018
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I just finished the book yesterday—and although I considered myself pretty enlightened when it came to a lot of this...I take cold showers at the end, do burpees in the morning, already had a lot of lemon water in the morning, often wear blue blockers at night and for computer screens, etc—

I learned a TON in this book.

Here are my 10 things I’m adding to my daily schedule from the first reading of the book:

1. Morning cocktail: add salt to my lemon water and make it room temperature, the night before.

2. Do Wim Hoff breathing technique before the cold shower, increase length of time for cold shower.

3. Be outside when sun comes up, can do it with my journaling, meditation, exercise. 10 minutes of sunshine minimum.

4. Use scent in office and workspace to help get into flow. Set an environment to focus and get after it. Essential oils for focus and productivity.

5. Create your own ethos, your own mantra, “Go hero go,” as example.

6. Evening playtime. You earned it. Best time for “me” or “we” time. Schedule Laura time.

7. Specific supplements and food help with very specific needs. Ginger, chocolate, wine at night. Aww, yeah.

8. Use driving mindfulness techniques. Wide gaze, take it all in. Use as practice to lengthen time between stimulus and response. Exercise in the time when anger is usually the worst.

9. Pro usage: aura rings for sleeping, lights for the ears, special yogurt, onnit supplements, get a rebounder for the morning.

10. Body weight exercises like the bear crawl, sit throughs, 23 burpees are enough.

11. 4 things to do for yourself: I love you, I’m sorry, I forgive you, thank you.

Yeah, it’s 11. I’m not bound by limits.👍

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Annlaug
Great book for a reader who know who they are
Reviewed in the United States on October 29, 2018
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This book has a lot of good points: and the idea to aim for a daily rhythm and routine that allows you to touch base with all your most important values is absolutely a great and thought-provoking point. But still I think this book is mainly written for people who already are on the right path: that know what they want out of their lives more or less but just need a few pointers on the details.

I also think the non-judgemental tone of the book is very, very useful: the human approach to wellness: including indulgences as part of the rhythm of life and talking about real things like sex and relationships is amazing especially coming from a young, male author that is being very vulnerable and personal. This is a must-read for young men everywhere and I don't mean just for the ab workout tips!

The only negative is that the author uses a lot of slang or at the very least: many highly American culture based references in his writing which is a big drawback for anyone outside of the US trying to read this.

It's almost like the author is trying too hard to keep it playful and casual in certain sections of the book and a lot of reading comprehension and communication is lost as a result. I wish he would have had a bit more editing by someone not from the USA so the book could be even more accessible and clear to all of us reading and not located in the USA. All in all: I love it. I would buy it again. I hope he writes more books.
I own a physical copy and a kindle version of this book. I found it to be very useful so after reading the Kindle version I decided to get the physical book as well.

But maybe next time: have someone in Europe look over it and give some pointers on using certain words and references that would make it more accessible to a European audience.

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Ajd
Love this book! Actually try it before you criticize it!
Reviewed in the United States on June 2, 2018
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I’ve been in the fitness industry for 10 years and have read many books and articles about feeling better, being healthy, getting stronger, etc. This book not only covers everything but explains why, backed by science. People are more concerned about their weight than well being and Aubrey explains how to actually feel better along with weight loss. What I also like is he doesn’t say this is the only way to live your life. Many books I have read are extremely bias and I didn’t really pick that up from reading this. I was 100lbs overweight at one time, I have competed in a bodybuilding show, I’ve done a powerlifting meet, I trained people for 5+ years, and I’ve tried about every diet out there. Guess what I did after I read this book.... I actually did what Aubrey suggested before I wrote this review! People leaving reviews criticizing his advice (key word advice, it’s not like he said everyone not doing this is going to live a terrible sad life) I know for a fact haven’t tried to follow it. I have followed everything he wrote about 90% and I can happily say I wake up looking forward to my morning. I feel tremendously better. Thank you Aubrey for sharing your knowledge with the world! Before you write a review I suggest you try it for at least a week. I’ve been doing it for over a month. All y’all haters acting like you know how to set a healthy circadian rhythm.... smh. Just get your big internet PhD out of your booty and try this. If it doesn’t make you feel better you probably just hate your life.

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Martina Andrea Provenzano
Fantastico!
Reviewed in Italy on October 22, 2018
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Questo libro è fantastico, l’ho letto tutto d’un fiato nonostante l’enormità. Dà un sacco di spunti molto interessanti che ovviamente bisogna riadattare alla propria vita e rendere propri, come tutto ciò che ci viene proposto, alla fine. Ho adottato delle “routine” e tecniche consigliate da questo libro, e devo dire che la mia vita è migliorata sotto molti aspetti. Ve lo consiglio, soprattutto se siete in grado di leggerlo senza mettere alcun filtro ai vostri occhi, e anzi con la massima versatilità possibile. Rendetelo vostro, può darvi tantissimo.

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Reviewed in Italy on October 22, 2018
Questo libro è fantastico, l’ho letto tutto d’un fiato nonostante l’enormità. Dà un sacco di spunti molto interessanti che ovviamente bisogna riadattare alla propria vita e rendere propri, come tutto ciò che ci viene proposto, alla fine. Ho adottato delle “routine” e tecniche consigliate da questo libro, e devo dire che la mia vita è migliorata sotto molti aspetti. Ve lo consiglio, soprattutto se siete in grado di leggerlo senza mettere alcun filtro ai vostri occhi, e anzi con la massima versatilità possibile. Rendetelo vostro, può darvi tantissimo.

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D.Smith
AMAZING read!!
Reviewed in Australia on November 29, 2019
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Aubrey Marcus is a truly inspiring individual. This book is a fantastic companion to his podcast. A must read for anyone trying to better themselves and take ownership of their life!

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Keller Florian
My Opinion as a Nutritionist, Personal Trainer & Business Consultant
Reviewed in Germany on July 1, 2018
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I have read many books on nutrition, performance and bio hacking in my life. Aubrey's fresh approach to divide the topic into units and thus provide a piece by piece guide for an optimal daily schedule is an innovative and pragmatic way. I can only recommend this book to everyone because it contains a construction kit for more joy of life and consciousness. Thanks Aubrey

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Felipe
A set of good tips, a good overall view
Reviewed in Brazil on February 18, 2019
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(you don’t want to do cold immersion when you’re sick or already under a simultaneous acute stress load). Contrast is not necessary, but for me it seems to produce the best effect. Listen to your body, not to your mind. Learn to distinguish the voices of resistance and prudence. After all, wrapped up in this concept of hormesis, of exposure to good, acute stress, is recognizing the appropriate dose. A hormetic stressor is only as good as the body’s ability to fully recover from the resistance it overcomes. If the body can’t, then the stressor isn’t promoting growth, it’s toxic and it’s prompting decay.

Chronic stress is literally killing us, and the traditional medical model offers us very little help to deal with it. Counterintuitively, one of the best ways to deal with chronic stress is to seek certain forms of acute stress. Through a process called hormesis, acute stress will help you adapt and become stronger. Cold exposure is one of the best sources of acute stress, and can be accessed in showers, cold tubs, and cryotherapy. The cold also offers the opportunity to practice an essential life skill—what I call “mental override”—the ability to make yourself do something you don’t want to do. The breath, when used in accordance with the Wim Hof method or other forms of intentional deep breathing, is an invaluable tool to modulate and adapt to acute stressors like cold shock, while also helping to melt away chronic stress on its own.

It was the Buddha who said, wisely, “To keep the body in good health is a duty, otherwise we shall not be able to keep our mind strong and clear.”

There are two primary reasons to supplement: to remediate potential deficiencies, and to gain access to unusual or hard-to-find nutrients. You don’t need to think of supplements as something that comes in a capsule, either. Getting the right amount of sun, sleep, and food is itself a kind of supplementation, and the first line of defense. The key things to consider supplementing are greens, probiotics, B vitamins, krill oil, vitamin D, and additional minerals.

Psychologists even have a term for it: narcotizing dysfunction. In fact, the more you follow the news, in some cases, the less likely you are to be an active, involved citizen, because you’ve confused consuming information with acting on it.

To combat the potential negative impact of the commute, as well as to practice greater presence and peace of mind, use conscious breathing techniques along with mindfulness practices like the wide peripheral gaze.

Nootropics have been proven to assist with memory and cognitive performance. Huperzia serrata is a great place to start and is a part of one of the most rigorously tested formulas on the market.

Whatever is worth doing at all is worth doing well.

Laughter is the diffuser of intensity.

Anytime you are pushing the boundaries of what you are capable of, it will be work—hard work—because you are coming up against the internal points of resistance within your mind and your soul. If it wasn’t work, it would be a problem, and I’d be worried.

sleep is not a binary thing, awake and asleep. There are all different shades of parasympathetic activation that help the recovery process for mind and body.

An ideal workout trains multiple power systems, including mobility, flexibility, endurance, cardio, power, and strength.

Being in close-knit groups is what being a human is about. We’re social creatures—and even though many of us have hyperactive digital social lives and flesh-and-blood social connections, the fact is that at no time in human history have so many people felt so alone. Our bodies can feel and sense this loneliness, and they are responding the only way bodies know how: by making us sick more often; by sinking us into deep depression; by throwing off our hormonal balance; and by making us find chemical substitutes for the human contact that we so crave.

The first thing you do when you come home from work, or emerge from the “productive” part of the day, is reset.

at a certain point we stop making really great new friends. In the absence of rituals like school and sports, we don’t take the time to forge deeper connections with people. Whether it is having an all-night bender in Vegas, or a ten-day journey in Peru, extreme experiences have the potential to form the deepest bonds.

Loneliness kills. But combating loneliness doesn’t mean having just anyone around you. It’s about forging deeper connections, with yourself first, and with your tribe. To connect with yourself, don’t be shy about creating a little state shift.

To connect with others, collapse the judgments that separate you by seeing them as you living a different life. Then play some music, have a laugh, but most important, make the effort to cultivate the sense of community around you.

There’s a reason sex is always everywhere. We’re never having enough of it. So we crave it, and we jump at every tantalizing suggestion of it—a fact that advertisers and media conglomerates are fully aware of, and use to their advantage.

So why aren’t we better at sex? The answer is actually shockingly simple: we’ve never been taught. As a culture we are absolutely devoid of any kind of practical sexual education, both for teens and adults. What do we have instead? Well, we usually start with lectures on how dangerous and bad and frightening sex is.

Everyone is different. Everyone likes different things. No matter how skilled you are (or think you are) as a lover, you will never truly know your partner unless you communicate. What are their desires, fantasies, boundaries, insecurities? What are yours?
Get out of your comfort zone, but always be ready for feedback. Great lovers aren’t born; they are made out of good listeners.

The tongue is the most important sex organ on the body. Not because you lick with it, but because you communicate with it. Let down your ego. Talk to your partner about your likes, dislikes, and fantasies. Laugh if something you didn’t expect happens. Don’t take it too seriously. Your sex does not define you. If you enjoy your sex, you are going to have more of it. The more sex you have, the healthier you will be. Limit your indulgence in pornography, explore power exchange, be adventurous, and level up your sex game by mastering the squeeze.

The cell phone has become the adult’s transitional object, replacing the toddler’s teddy bear for comfort and a sense of belonging.

Writing things down also reduces the instinct to go over that thought again and again in your head, making it easier for you to relax. Knowing that you won’t forget anything, because it’s written down right there for you, also smoothes your transition into sleepy time and makes waking up to own the day a pleasure instead of a panic.

The reality is, there are four phases to sleep: awake and resting; light sleep; deep sleep; and REM sleep. And while each of these phases is helpful, the two most important are deep sleep and REM sleep. In deep sleep, you release all the hormones to repair and rebuild your body. In REM sleep, you are basically rebooting the mental hard drive. A typical sleep cycle lasts ninety minutes and transitions from awake and resting, to light sleep, to deep sleep, finally ending in REM.

Knowing what to do and why to do it are a big part of owning the day. Before you implement what you have learned, you are inevitably going to face a force called resistance. It will hit you from the outside and from within, so you need to acquire the tools to overcome it. You need to learn how to forgive yourself for past failings, how to motivate yourself to keep going, how to visualize your success, how to give yourself a pat on the back, and how to let your tribe know about your journey so they can support you in the struggle and celebrate you in success. Do it for them as much as you do it for yourself.

The reason this whole thing has to start with forgiveness is that your choices will never be perfect. Maybe you got frustrated in the car this morning, or sat too long in one position at work this afternoon, or ignored your kids when you got home tonight. That’s okay. Your day is never going to be perfect. If there is anything about your day or your life that you need to own, it’s that.

What’s worse, if we allow the inner critic to punish us every time we fail to meet the standards of perfection, we’ll stop trying altogether. We’ll decide that it is better to pretend that it’s someone else’s fault, hiding behind excuses and rationalizations. If we know that when we fail, we will forgive ourselves, then we get to play from inspiration rather than fear. We’ll be able to look our mistakes right in the eye, take the medicine, and move on. It’s what any good coach does for his players.

No one is an island. And while all the individual, personal work I’ve talked about in this chapter is essential to conquering resistance and owning the day, it’s not yet enough, because we are tribal creatures, and we need the support of our tribe to truly thrive. Psychologists agree that there are four keys to compelling positive action:
(1) know what to do and how to do it;
(2) believe it will work;
(3) see the value; and
(4) get support from your community/tribe/family.

Part of the problem with our current condition is that there is a ton of conflicting information. When people are confused about what they should do and how they should do it, they don’t do anything at all.

The Hawaiian kahunas (shamans) have a practice for radical forgiveness they call Ho’oponopono, the purpose of which is to get you to a completely clean slate, a state of mind called the zero state (also the title of a book by Joe Vitale). It is a simple dialogue you have with yourself or a loved one, which requires you to say four things. We’re going to focus it on yourself for now, but keep this in your medicine bag when you need to resolve a conflict with anyone else.
“I love you.” Love is the appropriate bond that can unify all aspects of yourself. To express this love sets the foundation for all the communication to follow.
“I’m sorry.” This is to clear you of any guilt you may carry for the times you’ve done yourself wrong—from negative self-talk to forcing your body to cope with way too much cheap tequila.
“Forgive me.” The humble act of asking for forgiveness, when sincere, is not often opposed. Grant yourself the forgiveness you seek.
“Thank you.” This is an expression of gratitude to your body and your mind, not only for the forgiveness but for everything it has given you. It’s gotten you this far, after all, right? Say it to yourself: I love you, I’m sorry, forgive me, thank you.

The hero is simply someone who does battle with his demons every day.

Creating an ethos is a shortcut to mastering mental override. It prevents you from the anguish of deliberation over your choices and starts to define the person you want to be. Create your ethos and support yourself with positive self-talk. We are social creatures, designed to live in community with others. It is no surprise that accountability and support from our tribe is essential to creating any form of lasting change. Pick the day you want to own, begin the process, and let everyone you love know about it. Ask for their support, hold yourself accountable to your word, and you won’t just own that day, you will be setting yourself on the path to owning your life.

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Grateful for clarifying all the doubts and myths associated with nutrition and health. A must read to own the day and own the life.

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Own the Day, Own Your Life: Optimized Practices for Waking, Working, Learning, Eating, Training, Playing, Sleeping, and Sex Audio CD – Unabridged, April 17, 2018

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